he Literally just stormed in here and yelled at me about buying Diapers with his money for a kid he doesn't know is his. I don't know where that question even came from.
The question came from within him. Itís probably a combination of him trying to justify cheating, him needing an excuse to leave you and justifying that heís just plain not happy with his life. So he is miserable and he wants to you be just as miserable as he is.
If you know 100% that no other man could be the bio-father of your children, this is crazy. He is most likely talking to others about his accusations of you cheating. Itís typical these days for people to immediately arrive at the conclusion that the children are not his. I would suspect that those his buddies are telling him this all the time.
Have you told him to do a DNA test on the children? Tell him that the test kits can be purchased at any pharmacy, like Walgreens. He can go get one for each of the kids and send the tests in. Tell him to do that. And that since itís so darn easy for him to verify that he is the father of your two children, you donít want to hear those accusations anymore. Also, make sure that the results come to you as well so you can see them.
Seriously, you are coming off as though you have no power in this marriage. You do but you are advocating all of it to him. So, start taking back your power.
Here is an idea, to avoid a verbal fight that the kids can hear, text him something like the following:
ďSince you are the only man I have had sex with since you and I have been together, I know for a fact that you are the father of our two children. Apparently, you need to verify this. So please go to Walgreens and buy two paternity kit tests and have their DNA checked against yours. Since it is so easy and inexpensive for you to verify that you are indeed their biological father, I donít ever again want to hear you accuse me of them not being your biological children. NEVERE AGAIN.Ē
I have considered that. I was looking for medical assistant as well as a phlebotomist training course. Problem is they cost money and I don't have any. It's all his. I can't afford to quit my current job because if he puts me out I would need some type of money.
He cannot ďput you outĒ. It does not matter if the house belongs to him. Itís your marital home, the home of your children and your legal residence. He would have to file for divorce and ask the court to kick you and the children out of the home. But no court will do that. You will be able to live in the house until the divorce is final.
I can guess why he has not filed for divorce yet. Because he knows that he will have to pay you interim spousal support and child support until the divorce is final. It can take quite a while (1-2 years for a divorce to be final). Then after the divorce he will have to pay you child support.
If you are in school, you might get the court to order him to pay you rehabilitative spousal support until your program is finished. I assume that itís a few months to 2-year program.
I haven't eaten in days because i'm so anxious about what is going to happen. It pains me to watch my kids play like their family isn't falling apart. I feel so helpless because I didn't do anything to deserve this. I'm not saying all woe is me but it's really hard to deal with him treating me this way when I have been nothing but a loving and devoted wife to him.
You say that he is a good father. From what you have said, I disagree. Heís not a good father. A good father treats the mother of his children with respect and love. A good father does not create a hateful, stressful environment for his children to have to live in. Your children would be better off without all this stress in their lives.
What state do you live in? I think you need to know the laws in your state and what you can do to protect yourself and your children. If you share your state, we can help you find some useful info.