Re: We live together, but don't speak
Life is short.. Question... Living like this.. imagining staying for another 15 yrs or whatever it would be...long term.. what will this do to you ...is there any JOY in your life.. anything you look forward to.. any happiness ? How does one disconnect this part of their life...it has to feel like a daily sacrifice, stuffing your resentment down...until you have become NUMB....are you numb ?
When was the last time you were truly happy, hopeful, felt your life was in tune with your goals, dreams, aspirations?
Growing up...hanging out at my cousin's house...I remember them sharing with me how they WISHED their parents would just divorce.. they didn't talk, they just "lived together" silently.. ignoring one another.. They obviously put on a "good face" to others as this was rather shocking TO ME hearing this... they did wait till these girls were in college.. but what a waste..
On the other hand, there I was... a child of Divorce...I remember my Mom & Dad fighting, yelling... the weren't silent.. they hashed it out alright...they divorced when I was 9... but at least my father went on to marry someone who was pretty much "perfect" for him... they were on the same page... wanted the same things...they've had a wonderful marriage for the last 40 yrs. She wasn't my favorite person.. kinda sucked as a Step mother... but still I had a good example of what a Marriage was supposed to look like.... 2 people who enjoyed each other, teamwork, respect and compatibility.
If living like this is affecting your happiness , this will trickle down to your children, do consider the example before them...also if your daughters were in your situation... you wouldn't want them to stay.. you would do all you could to get them out of there -for an enjoyable life, even if on their own... to find happiness with someone who Valued them, was faithful and treated them with respect & love.. Just something to think about..
Last edited by SimplyAmorous; 03-12-2017 at 06:58 AM.