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post #1 of 2 (permalink) Old 03-12-2017, 02:02 PM Thread Starter
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The science of love and why people fall out of it

A general understanding about love will let most understand why their spouses may fall out of love. I am a logical and inquisitive kind of guy. I need to know why things are the way they are and not just their symptoms. For what it is worth, the following article will explain why hot love can cool off, go away or turn into a mature love. Enjoy:

How long does passion last? The four stages of love -

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Re: The science of love and why people fall out of it

That's a nice little summary. The time frame given for the initial love phase (2 to 3 years) is the reason I always recommend that you do not decide to marry - or actually marry - until the relationship has lasted 3 years or more.

There is also an exception to the statement: "the human brain is programmed to love one person at a time" so you must fall out of love before falling in love with someone else. Some people can love more than one person at a time, or have transitioned to long-term mature love and add a new love to the mix (who can eventually also become a long-term mature love as well).

Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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