Re: advice on seperated wife
She's detached. She doesn't love you. When the acting distant started, that was when the affair started.
What she is doing:
She is feeding you breadcrumbs for several reasons.
1 she wants your financial support.
2 she doesn't want you to file.
3 she wants you to ball up and pine for her-- it's good for her ego.
4 she doesn't want to see another woman. Take her husband, even though she doesn't want you.
5 she will keep you in pain for as long as she can in order to feed her ego with your begging. You are her emotional security blanket.
If you don't file, you're messing up.
If you ever show her you care again, you're messing up,
Here's your future, if you allow it:
Your wife will keep you pining for her and supporting her financially and emotionally as long as possible. She will continue to sleep over at other men's houses (but not have sex, lol), and live like a single woman while you take care of the kids.
I'll bet she's been at the gym for a while, and shaving down there suddenly, new panties, too--- all while being "distant".
You'll be stuck watching your wife out with other men and happpy as a lark--- making you miserable.
If you don't get a deal on divorce when she might be a little guilty feeling, you're screwed. Please don't give her time to get her exit strategy divorce-wise totally figured out.
Go out with other women, immediately. I only say that because other women's attn will help on the lack of confidence and self esteem induced by your wife's betrayal and rejection. Don't get serious with one for a long time.
Do not ever think this woman has feelings for YOU. Any sweetness she gives you is to keep you on the hook for her own ego.
She has plainly told you she doesn't love you. Accept it.
Please. Also accept that you WILL find a better version of her--- it won't be hard. She's a bad person.