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post #1 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-14-2017, 04:51 PM Thread Starter
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My wife watches lesbian porn and it's freaking me out

I caught my wife watching lesbian porn and when I confronted her about it, she said she is 100% straight. I don't get it why would a straight woman want to watch females having sex?

I mean straight guys don't have any desire to watch gay porn so why do straight women watch lesbian porn?

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Its pretty common for straight women to enjoy lesbian porn. As a straight guy its difficult for me to understand because to me two women getting it on is so obviously arousing that I can't put myself in the mindset of anyone NOT finding it appealing.


In any case I think there is nothing to worry about . Why not watch it with her? It can also be very instructive on how to do some things for women.
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Because women are sexy? I've watched lesbian porn and my partner has also said he's watched it in the past as well. When I was trying to figure out how to masturbate, lesbian porn was my go to. Also when I was trying to figure out how to squirt.

I've also watched gangbang porn but I sure as heck wouldn't want anyone but my partner near me though. People watch a lot of different types of porn simply out of curiosity. Not everyone seeks out porn based on the specific type of sexual acts they're interested in practicing.

Are there any red flags that make you question her sexuality, besides her watching lesbian porn? If not, you really shouldn't freak out. The last thing you want to do is make her feel she needs to hide to watch porn. Go watch it with her and turn it into some steamy sex session.
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Because women are sexy? I've watched lesbian porn and my partner has also said he's watched it in the past as well. When I was trying to figure out how to masturbate, lesbian porn was my go to. Also when I was trying to figure out how to squirt.

I've also watched gangbang porn but I sure as heck wouldn't want anyone but my partner near me though. People watch a lot of different types of porn simply out of curiosity. Not everyone seeks out porn based on the specific type of sexual acts they're interested in practicing.

Are there any red flags that make you question her sexuality, besides her watching lesbian porn?
she constantly comments on how good looking women are.
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she constantly comments on how good looking women are.
And so do I. I stare way more than my partner does. I'm big on butts, I cannot help noticing a woman with a beautiful behind. I almost always point it out to my partner if he doesn't notice. I also compliment women when its obvious they've put some effort into their appearance. I love looking at women's bodies and because of that my partner "treats" me to a strip club visit every now and then. Surely I exhibit way more red flags than your partner.

Any other red flags?
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Yichud,

What do you know about previous relationships your W had?

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Be happy that you have a wife with a sex positive outlook. There are to many women out there that were taught sex is dirty and something to be ashamed of. If your wife is open to her sexuality that shouldn't be a threat to you. embrace it and welcome any conversation that comes out of it, it will make you stronger as a couple.

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I watch lesbian porn, too. I also watch a couple other categories that may make some straight laced, vanilla couples raise their brows.
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Because women are sexier than men - even to straight women. IMO men in porn are not that sexy...they seem a bit predatory, unattractive or threatening (big penis yuk). There is also lengthy scenes of of cunnilingus which is arousing for women. Porn where men are doing the same thing tends to be briefer and a bit rubbish.

Another reason why lesbian porn is appealing is because we can learn about our own sexuality. It is more affectionate and less....banging away!

Most don't necessarily watch lesbian porn because we want to have sex with women.
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women and lesbian porn

why do straight women watch lesbian porn when straight men dont watch gay porn?

you would expect for straight women to watch gay porn instead.

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You confronted about her a topic that could bring joy to your life that most guys can only dream about.

It's like winning the lottery and as they hand you the check you curse them out.

I just don't understand people.

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I merged your two threads. Only one thread per topic please.
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Why are you so worked up about it, OP?

Human sexuality is complicated. And it isn't binary. (Meaning that people are not either straight or gay). There are gray areas; there is a continuum rather than a strict "one way or the other".

I consider myself straight, but have experimented back in the day. I am only interested in sex and relationships with men, though; can't imagine having sex with a woman now. Yet I watch porn of all kinds. It's just a way of getting off.

She's married to you, not a woman. And porn is a fantasy. So what is the big deal?

Don't let people become a priority in your life when you're just an option in theirs.
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Re: My wife watches lesbian porn and it's freaking me out

The only type of porn my wife could bear watching were lesbian shower scenes (she is a bit obsessed about cleanliness so i wonder if it was the soap she was getting off to...).
Nowadays she doesn't watch any porn. I wish she did. I think I'd prefer her watching lesbian porn rather than gay porn/looking at dicks...
Anyway, don't give her a hard time :-)
Unless she actually seeks out having sex with women. And even then, I would only give her a hard time if I wasn't allowed to join in...Though I would still be hard. Plus a little sad.
Ok I shouldn't joke about it. There must be some relationships in ruins because of this (not so much porn).
Funny, the double standard :-) Women watching porn: "you go girl!"
Men watching porn: "sick addict!"
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post #15 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-14-2017, 09:57 PM
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Re: My wife watches lesbian porn and it's freaking me out

Are you happy with your sex life with yor wife?

Then drop it. This isn't your hill to die on.

Maybe even encorage her to watch it with you
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