How do i make this guy stay away from my wife???

lordmayhem · 12-30-2011, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by chillymorn

I guess I disagree.

men have turned into a bunch a P***** in america.

I'm not advocating starting a fight for no reason.this man is harrassing his wife.

yes his wife should also tell him to creep away. but I wouldn't send registered letters or advoiding things in my life because a BULLIE is harrassing my wife.

the only thing a bullie listens to is thr truth. stay away or get an a** kicking.

And in this day and age, OM would love to have this happen and call the cops on him. Then the cops will reluctantly have to arrest Randy1 for assault. This isn't the 70s anymore where an OM would take his ass kicking like a man because he deserved it and no one would bat an eye.

chillymorn · 12-30-2011, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by lordmayhem

And in this day and age, OM would love to have this happen and call the cops on him. Then the cops will reluctantly have to arrest Randy1 for assault. This isn't the 70s anymore where an OM would take his ass kicking like a man because he deserved it and no one would bat an eye.

Bull all he has to do is tell him that would be enough for him to back off.

his word agint the a** holes word.

Runs like Dog · 12-30-2011, 10:00 AM

Here's where we are. I don't like you. I don't like you hanging around. You are a threat to my family. I will kill and eat anyone who threatens my family. Clear off. Are we clear? Are we crystal f^cking clear?

tacoma · 12-30-2011, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Runs like Dog

Here's where we are. I don't like you. I don't like you hanging around. You are a threat to my family. I will kill and eat anyone who threatens my family. Clear off. Are we clear? Are we crystal f^cking clear?

Don`t misunderstand me I`m perfectly fine with going this route IF the guy continues harassing my wife AFTER she`s told him to piss off.

Point is the wife in this instance hasn`t made her point clear.

It makes me wonder what her real point is.

Runs like Dog · 12-30-2011, 10:11 AM

It's not her problem to solve. It's yours. Sure, I'm an old school patriarch but that's my deal. Stay away from my wife, my kids, my life. That's my job to ensure that.

I'mInLoveWithMyHubby · 12-30-2011, 10:15 AM

OMG! What a creepy guy! Someone needs to tell him to back off.

I was 8 months pregnant with my middle child. It was 5am in the morning, I just gotten out of shower, dried off and putting deodorant on. I didn't realize the nursery bedroom door was open with the blinds up. I look over and my neighbor had his hands cupped to his window staring at me while I was naked. Talk about feeling violated, I was very angry for him staring at me naked. I never did tell his wife. This was when we were living in the city and the houses were a few feet from each other. We moved a few months later and have fewer neighbors.
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Entropy3000 · 12-30-2011, 10:19 AM

He has every right and responsibility to run this creep off. So I am saying I fall into the both camp on this. Meaning, he should talk to his wife about this, let her know his expectations for her behavior as it concerns this guy AND at the next opportunity tell the guy calmly but firmly to get lost and that he does not want him around his family ever again.

She should not answer the door to this guy. If she has not already the next time he initiates with her she should tell him to go away, never bother her again and that she is telling her husband about his actions. To be clear that she is not threatening him with next time she will tell her husband but that she will be telling her husband right now. Like calling him on the cell and letting him know that this guy is actively bothering her. They can also complain to the managemnet of the rental properties to get this on record.

If the guy persists and comes knocking on the door she should call the police. When they arrive she should say that this guy is bothering her and that she has told him to go away. The police will escort him away. If he continues to be creepy then this escalates to the next level. This guys will not take subtle hints. It takes both the wife and husband to support each other. The predators job is to cause a rift between them.

tacoma · 12-30-2011, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Runs like Dog

It's not her problem to solve. It's yours. Sure, I'm an old school patriarch but that's my deal. Stay away from my wife, my kids, my life. That's my job to ensure that.

Is she a child?

He's making advances towards her.
That is exactly her problem to solve and if she had handled it the way 99% of the women of the world handle unwanted advances it probably wouldn't be a problem at all.

It's her lack of dealing with it that made it a problem.
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Runs like Dog · 12-30-2011, 03:44 PM

Then what you're suggesting is that she's playing a game and trying to get her husband to sit up and play along. I don't do mind games and subterfuge. My personal view - and it's a purely a personal view is that if you dump something in my lap I will deal with it strictly in the way I want to with zero input from anyone else. That's just me.

tacoma · 12-30-2011, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Runs like Dog

Then what you're suggesting is that she's playing a game and trying to get her husband to sit up and play along.

I don`t really know if she`s playing a game but I do know this isn`t the first guy to hit on her yet it seems to be the first time they`ve had this problem.

pidge70 · 12-30-2011, 03:57 PM

OP hasn't even been back.
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Therealbrighteyes · 12-30-2011, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by tacoma

Is she a child?

He's making advances towards her.
That is exactly her problem to solve and if she had handled it the way 99% of the women of the world handle unwanted advances it probably wouldn't be a problem at all.

It's her lack of dealing with it that made it a problem.
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FREAKING WORD! She doesn't need the big bad wolf to handle this for her, SHE needs to tell the dude to back off. The fact that she hasn't says something to me.

michzz · 12-30-2011, 04:58 PM

Does it matter who draws the line?

Wife, husband--united front.

Super aggressive predator men can move to a sexual assault pretty quickly. Why potentially put your wife in such a situation just assertain her loyalty to you?

Protect the marriage--period.

Therealbrighteyes · 12-30-2011, 05:50 PM

The guy's a drive by poster. Started two posts and never responded to any of the advice. Plus how many guys do you know refer to a dude as "a really hot guy"? I don't know any. Next.

michzz · 12-30-2011, 06:49 PM

We seem to get a lot of those churn the locals and run types.