I can only speak for my own views. I have no issue against it for other couples, though it's rough in a divorce. The husband will end up paying to support her, even if she cheats, and she will have a hard time getting back into the work force. But, each couple must decide on their own.
My wife is a working professional and so am I. If we divorced, she and I would be on equal footing. I would have it no other way. Our children have not suffered in this arrangement.
Like any job, I would suppose the amount of work required depends on job expectations and also personal effort. If you care about a job, you'll put more effort in. If you're working to strict deadlines, you'll meet those deadlines or face consequences. I guess one benefit is that there's not as much fear that a sahp will get "fired" for not delivering. Maybe expectations need to be renegotiated every once in awhile, but they can kind of function as their own boss. At least that's how I view it.
Is being a sahp hard? First you'd have to define hard and cite a source of comparison.
The way you ask that question is very leading. I, as well as many working mothers, probably feel like they put 'their family ahead' of all things they do. I work crazy hours and miss out on professional development opportunities because my family comes first
From the point of view of a married woman and mother who has tried the following while raising children:
- SAHM
- PT professional, PT SAHM
- FT professional with childcare,
my own experience was that, from a pure logistical point of view, stress levels for me went this way, from most stressful to least stressful:
- PT professional, PT SAHM
- FT professional with childcare
- SAHM
For me, having two jobs rather than one was the killer. As a woman of my generation, I was always the primary for raising the kids, so juggling work and home almost sent me to the ER with an early heart attack.
Just my experience.
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