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whats your opinion on women that put their family ahead of their career by choosing a life as a wife, and a mother?

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Im a fan. If the conditions are right.
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My opinion is that each person and each couple should do what they believe is best for their own family. If a husband and wife decide that it is in the best interests of the family for the wife to stay home with the children, I have no problem with that.

I've been a SAHM for over twenty years. During that time, I have homeschooled three children. I'm almost finished homeschooling and plan to go back to work when my last child's high school education is completed. It is a sacrifice, but for our family it has been helpful. There are many reasons why we chose this lifestyle and it has worked for us.

I have friends who have worked full time while raising families and I think they have it a lot harder than I do. It has made our family life a lot easier for me to be a SAHM, which is why we made that choice. When I was working full time with a young child, it was a lot more stressful on both my husband and me. Our schedule is a lot easier to manage with me at home. I can't say what is best for anyone else, only what is best for us.

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Housewives are hot.
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No problem if that is what she wants to do, and if she finds a husband who wants that sort of traditional arrangement.

Its not an arrangement that I would want.
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I'm a SAHM and I absolutely love it. I homeschool our daughter (my stepdaughter) who we have full time, and get to be home and be there for when she or my husband are sick. If our girl is sick, we don't have to scramble trying to find someone to look after her because I am there.

She has some special needs so attends a lot of appoinments, which I am able to take her to myself. I wouldn't want someone else doing that. I like to be there with and for her.

I have friends who work full time and I honestly don't know how they do it, my life is so easy compared to theirs. It has it's moments, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm incredibly lucky. My husband values my contribution to the household, and while it may not be financial, he knows that some things can't be measured in dollar terms.

Wouldn't swap my life for anything.
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I'm all for it if that is what both spouses want, and am envious of those families. I think it's definitely great for the kids.

My only concern would be if the marriage goes sideways later in life, the wife may be very vulnerable financially if she has no recent work experience.
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[QUOTE=WorkingWife;17525809]I'm all for it if that is what both spouses want, and am envious of those families. I think it's definitely great for the kids.

My only concern would be if the marriage goes sideways later in life, the wife may be very vulnerable financially if she has no recent work experience.[/QUOTE]

Exactly, that is my problem now.

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My wife is proud to be a housewife. If not for her holding down the home front I would not have been able to advance as quickly as I did in my profession. She put up with 13 relocations over our 44 years of marriage plus taking care of things when I was overseas for 3 months each year. She happily decorated each of the 9 houses we have lived in, some as little as 2 months before another transfer. She is the Mistress of our home and runs it like a well oiled machine. I could not imagine my life without her. Don't even want to think about it.

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I believe that is a choice made by her in consultation with her partner. I have done both.

However, there is not enough support for women who give up good careers to go back into the work force. I left a good management position and now find I am starting at the bottom again, it sucks.

Looking back I do not regret the time I spent with my kids, they are much better for it I believe and we have a good relationship. However, I do regret giving up my career to be a housewife and support my husbands career, frankly I got no thanks for it and am now struggling to kickstart again on much lower pay than my H earns. Frankly society (where I live) puts little value on what mothers contribute.

If I had stayed in my career I could not have depended on my husband to carry half the load at home (he is not that kind of man) and the stress would have probably killed me.
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I think my attitude about it depends on how it's approached. Some think it's a huge sacrifice they're making that the husbands should be thankful for. Others see it as a gift they should be grateful for. I could only deal with the latter. And if I have to be the sole provider of that lifestyle, I expect to be taken care of. In every way.
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What is your opinion?

And why do you ask?
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I'm all for it if that is what both spouses want, and am envious of those families. I think it's definitely great for the kids.

My only concern would be if the marriage goes sideways later in life, the wife may be very vulnerable financially if she has no recent work experience.
Exactly, that is my problem now.
Yep. It's a total screw job on the stay-at-home-spouse. I don't know how alimony works, but I can't imagine it makes up for what you could earn if you had your own career. And it doesn't last forever - and once you are over 40 or 50, it can be really hard to get a career type job because employers look at you and think:

1) You may not stick around that long
2) You're more likely to have health issues
3) You won't be happy with entry level pay
4) You won't be willing to put up with hours/requests a young person will. (Though with many of today's millennials, it's probably more likely to be the young people who lack the work ethic and already think they are something special.)
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