that_girl

Just because the truth isn't something you want to hear doesn't mean it's childish.

But good luck! Hope you make a decision soon.

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justagirl11

no you're bashing me for considering a nanny.

that_girl

Not bashing. Just trying to understand why you would even want a child if you're not going to raise it. parenthood isn't just about the good times and showing the kid off. It's not a puppy.

But I'm done in here, as I don't think you are for real.

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justagirl11

no you didn't say the truth you pretend it's inherently wrong to have a night nanny I bet you'd say my mom was terrible for being miles away while I was very young at night with a sitter. That's all I said about it was while we sleep a nanny could take care of him/her you act like it's any more terrible when it isn't.....

you guys seem to have short term memory you forget I am not even 19 yet and go to college and have a lot other things to do besides raising a baby. You forget completely just a second ago we talked about if I had no kids I don't think I could stay with him so of course I'd keep this one what other choice do I have really if I want things to work. So in 9 years I won't feel like something is missing. Someone said if I wanted to have his baby I have to keep this and there's a lot validity to that statement. That's why I'd want to keep it. I have my life you have yours... You may not agree but I have my own choices to make. I can't help that you have short term memory.

CallaLily

HUH? Where did you get I was 19? I'm actually way older than you, closer to your mans age. I was saying I remembered what it used to be like when I was 19 yrs old...please read better.

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justagirl11

who said it was to raise my child I never did. I have to go to school. I need a sitter in the day anyway. My bf has a demanding job. He has a lot of financial support to do this so why is that wrong??

justagirl11

what's the point to get a night nanny if it's gunna keep you up all night of course it would be in another area with the nanny at night

justagirl11

no that's what you guys were saying to me who cares anyway doesn't matter

trey69

What was your original question to this thread? Were you wanting to know what to do about the pregnancy? What to do about your 46 yr old b/f? Or were you looking for validation on what has happened?

It seems nothing anyone has said matters to you. You have been given some helpful advice IMO. I do not think you will take any of it or even consider it. You are hell bent on remaining with this man. The pregnancy is very sad. You don't even want the child so even if you bring it into the world and keep it, what kind of life do you think you will provide for a child that is not wanted? I'm not meaning financially either. Your b/f isn't going to want it either, its sad.

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WhereAmI

"It", huh?

Please don't keep this child. If you decide to do so, take a few classes on child psychology as well as infant development. Familiarize yourself with symptoms of neglect in infants and children. Hopefully when the nanny and your child visit from the other wing you'll be able to gauge how well she's raising your child.

I understand having a nanny for help, but it sounds like you're interested in the title of mother compared to actually being one.
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that_girl

Don't feed the troll, guys.

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AgentD

The word "sugar daddy" comes to mind.

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justagirl11

I'm ****ing 19 obviously I don't want a kid.

and fulltime is 8 hours a day... Probably more since I go to school which takes up time.


I'm 7 weeks pregnant I don't know if it's a boy or a girl.

I don't know what to do. I was hoping I'd somehow talk it out and figure out everytime people would say he's never going to want kids with me and I think of it and I realize I don't really want that. I want when I'm ready to be satisfied that I don't have to want to have kids because I'd already have one. So yea....

AgentD

Have the child and give it up for adoption then, so you and your man can live happily ever after.

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justagirl11

w.e. If he were a sugardaddy I'd be withanother guy wo had more money. Relationships aren't about money looks sex etc it's about the soul. Once I found a match I couldn't deny it......