trey69

He is 46, he is more than likely using you for sex. 46 and 19 have nothing in common, sorry.

Also a 46 year old has been around the block a time or two enough to know exactly all the right things to say that a 19 yr old would want to hear, as long as sex is in it for him.

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justagirl11

ange5112 I am confused and just wanted to figure what to do by pretty much writing out my feelings. You just judged me because you disagree. I've done nothing but say I was doing all you did was attack.
bottom line is he doesnt want kids in the future and that forces me to want the only one I have.

justagirl11

I've said this before we didn't have sex until last month we've been together almost 11mo. @trey

justagirl11

I read it wrong apparently but what do you mean?

trey69

And? You think because he waited it means he wont or isn't using you? Naive to the 5th power.

BTW, if you want kids in the future and he doesn't, you are with the wrong person.

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CallaLily

Its probably best to ask a professionals opinion on the matter. A therapist. Someone who knows what they are talking about, because obviously none of us do.

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justagirl11

we have an appointment for us both in counselling next week. But I guess I wanted to have an idea on what we were going to do.... At least I can sum it up...

CallaLily

10 pages later and you're just now saying this?

Anyway, why do you both need to go? What are you planning on discussing in the counseling session?

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justagirl11

I think from experience our compatibility makes it easy to make our relationship work. I don't know in hard times it takes work to make it work but I'd have no desire to if there was no compatibility.... Idk maybe it's just a different stage of relationship than you know.

justagirl11

well we want to try and see if our issues with parenting maybe can be mendable. Like about my bf not thinking he'd be a good dad. Etc.. It may or may not work.

CallaLily

Well, if he doesn't want kids anyway which he had already told you, its not likely to work anyway.

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justagirl11

who knows... He said he doesn't want kids but he'l try what he can with this one.... I wanted to update and say I decided to terminate. I decided I can do without kids in the future and we're now newly-weds and enjoying every moment of it.

ladybird

I am pro life, but i do believe it is everyone choice to make their own decisions on life changing events like having a child.

I will tell you.. I got pregnant at 15 and had my son 4 months before my 16th birthday.. My life changed, I was now responsible for another life, other then my own... If i said it was easy i would be lying, but I did it at 15 years old. (he is now almost 18) Men will come and go but your child will always be there.

I never thought I could ever love anyone as much as I loved my son..

You have bigger things to think about other then your relationship right now. You have to think about the baby in your belly.

I do agree with the others... He will not change his mind about wanting children.. He is 46 his mind is already made up and you can not change him...

I got married when i was 19. I am now 33. I was nieve at 19.