Re: Husband's double dates
I know that they go out all 4 together, now I don't know if there is any pairing off before or after but I've seen pictures of all four together while out so they do go to the same place together. I honestly do not think there is an affair, the one woman who I think would be most likely interested in him doesn't live close enough to us to make an affair possible. I honestly trust him on this, but I don't trust the motives of the others because I don't know who is pushing the just the four of us thing.
they are probably not going to go out for another month or 2 however I can't keep thinking about this and not taking care of this now, I rather have him know that I need him to stop this now, before the next round of planning starts, so that he can go into it ready to let them know the new situation. I feel that if I wait until they start planning again it will make it an argument, I'm hoping that by dealing with it now will give him time to really process it and really think about how it impacts our marriage, rather than have a knee jerk reaction of "you're not going to tell me what to do". We are really at a point in our marriage where we either keep working at making things better or we go our separate ways, this is the only thing I'm asking for to make me commit to really let myself "fall" for him again. I have a wall up right now and this is one of the things that stops me from basically allowing myself to fall back in love with my husband, and I really, really want to fall back in love with him, but I can't let him hurt me with this again. I guess maybe this is exactly what I should tell him? and leave it up to him, do you want a wife you has fallen back in love with you or one who resents you and your friends?