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post #16 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-17-2017, 01:28 PM
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Agreed.

However, when the response to her upsetness is to name call, throw insults and be rude, and then regress into silence, it is impossible to get to the bottom of anything!

I shouldn't have called her a B**** last night. I know that was an emotional outburst that should have just been better served by walking away.
Well, more often than not a woman will talk when they are good and ready to talk. Best to wait it out.

Throwing out the B word is hard to recover from.


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I shouldn't have called her a B**** last night. I know that was an emotional outburst that should have just been better served by walking away.
If I were in this situation, I would start becoming so passive aggressive, but by being nice! Then once I realize who is who at being an a**, at least I was being nice about it!

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If I were in this situation, I would start becoming so passive aggressive, but by being nice! Then once I realize who is who at being an a**, at least I was being nice about it!

I don't think i understand this comment lol. Sorry.

I need to just step back and breathe. I reacted which I have not done previously.

I'm going to go rekindle the counseling sessions with my therapist and see if that helps. I really didnt think I would get so emotional again...
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Based on the snippets coming back from you MrNightly, it would not hurt for BOTH of you to get into a little counseling. She has to learn to dial back the childish behavior and so do you. Frankly both of you deserve a paddlin'. Dumbass way to fool around...what if she had an previously undiagnosed heart ailment? She had better learn positive disagreement techniques instead of going straight for the divorce. (I had a client whose wife did this repeatedly, it lost its meaning to her, it was just something she said, until he took her up on it-I have never seen a denial spiral like she took-I didn't mean it...I never meant it...I didn't know it hurt...How could he?...over and over until the divorce was final. He is happily remarried, she is not, she is still trying to wrap her head around what happened)
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Husband and Wife enjoy jumping out and scaring one another at random times. Husband jumps out and scares wife
This is so odd. Unless you're 6. If so please accept my apology and get ready for beddie bye. And brush your teeth!
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Yes, this is the truth.

Most likely, Wife was feeling upset about Husband having a work conversation with a woman. Husband runs a business and occassionally has to deal with women. Wife is rather jealous apparently.

The bad part, is that Wife will never just have a normal conversation and instead turns it into a fight when she has bad thoughts. There is a very large problem with emotional maturity with Wife.

(Forgive my Wife/Husband style today... I'm pretty unnerved after the this last eposide.... I truly thought when she said she wouldn't do this anymore, she wouldn't do it!!!)
Uh, there is also a very large problem with emotional maturity with Husband.
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This is so odd. Unless you're 6. If so please accept my apology and get ready for beddie bye. And brush your teeth!
Seriously! My 9 yr old does this and it drives.me.nuts.
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Seriously! My 9 yr old does this and it drives.me.nuts.
Next time pretend to have a heart attack and fall on the floor dead until he starts crying.

It might not solve the issue entirely but you might get a break for a few days.
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Is this how you normally argue, does she say ''divorce'' in the midst of arguments a lot? If so, that's not cool.

You both should apologize, wait...I thought this was a hypothetical? LOL Omg.

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Is this how you normally argue, does she say ''divorce'' in the midst of arguments a lot? If so, that's not cool.

You both should apologize, wait...I thought this was a hypothetical? LOL Omg.
I apologized.

Yes, we both have growing up to do.

She is very childlike in many things, and loves to "jump" out and scare people... my two kids (11 and 13 this year) love to joke around with her like this on a regular basis. Some may think it's dumb, so be it. It's been a fun way to laugh together in the past.

Yes, she brings up divorce every fight now. I just came home and all the photo's of us are taken down from around the house. I'm going to ignore it and watch the KU game!
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I apologized.

Yes, we both have growing up to do.

She is very childlike in many things, and loves to "jump" out and scare people... my two kids (11 and 13 this year) love to joke around with her like this on a regular basis. Some may think it's dumb, so be it. It's been a fun way to laugh together in the past.

Yes, she brings up divorce every fight now. I just came home and all the photo's of us are taken down from around the house. I'm going to ignore it and watch the KU game!
I've only got one piece of advice. If this goes all the way to divorce and if you end up inside a courtroom, do not play the "Boo!" game by hiding under the defense table. It will not go over well with the judge.

Just trust me on this one.
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I'm going to print off annulment papers and hand them to her tonight.

I'm so over the abusive games she plays then expects me to be ok when she comes out of her fit.

I also want to ensure she doesn't run away with the baby who is due in a month. I'm probably need to fight for full custody.
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I'm going to print off annulment papers and hand them to her tonight.
You're going to try to get an anullment based on the fact that she scares too easily and is a sore loser?
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You're going to try to get an anullment based on the fact that she scares too easily and is a sore loser?
Nah... not because of that.

Ive written plenty about it in another thread.

I love her but I'm not willing to be abused like this for the rest of my life
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