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post #31 of 46 (permalink) Old 03-18-2017, 05:43 PM
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My wife asks for me to pick out porn we can share together. It's a really interesting thing to be a part of. It's not an all the time thing just every once in the while. We have been married for 50 years. She is not afraid of her sexuality or mine.

We explore everything together. We share everything. It makes us closer. I know what she likes and what she doesn't.

We are 100% monogamous and we always have been. We are totally dependent on each other for our satisfactions and we always have been. If she were against something that I wanted to try, like porn, it might open a chasm between us and work to separate us. Sharing the most intimate details of what we like lead us to understand each other so much better.

It's only sex, as cheaters say, but there is no cheating.

Perhaps you might restate your objection to porn to be less "all inclusive" and define it as not possible with your own life.
Thank goodness I have a husband who also knows the damage that porn does. Yes it is cheating, its bring others into your marriage. Its taking the focus off each other and onto others. Its seeing naked men and women when you should only be seeing each other.Its putting those images into you mind that will always be there.

Porn use is cited in 60% of all divorces now.I know 2 marriages myself that ended because of porn. Its so damaging. Its a multi million pound industry that makes a of of money for many unscrupulous people and uses women who often have little self esteem, and many who were from abusive pasts.

I also you one question, would you be ok if your daughter became a porn actress and was seen and leered after by countless men?

Believe me, not looking at porn isnt because we are 'afraid of our sexuality', but because we are faithful in body and mind and keep all of the intimacy between ourselves. Its very special when you have a partner who goes against the flow and doesn't do this, that enriches our marriage and sex life so much.

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I think it can be if it becomes preferred over being with one's partner or an addiction. But, everything starts somewhere.
Its unfaithfulness. Most porn users do get addicted eventually and many will get to the point of not wanting sex with a normal lady any more, and some are even unable to be aroused by anything but worse and worse types of porn. It destroys lives and marriages. I know many who this has happened to.
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Even if you converted because you felt called to Christianity, and not because you want to use faith as a tool to manipulate your wife, it has to be her decision to come to faith. I came back to faith a little over a year ago, and everyone's path is different.
I have friends who have non christian husbands, and they have learnt to mostly keep quiet about it, but pray and pray. One of their husbands had recently become a Christian aged 70!
Its hard though when one converts after marriage. This is why as Christians we should never marry a non Christian.
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Porn is damaging to a marriage no matter what.
Not true. Maybe in your life but you cannot speak for others.
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Not true. Maybe in your life but you cannot speak for others.
Statistics show the terrible damage that porn does. Porn is cited in 60% of all divorces. Porn addiction is rife.It damages both the one looking and his/her marriage.Its a horrible industry.
It doesn't damage my life because we don't use it.
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Statistics show the terrible damage that porn does. Porn is cited in 60% of all divorces. Porn addiction is rife.It damages both the one looking and his/her marriage.Its a horrible industry.
It doesn't damage my life because we don't use it.
You said porn is damaging to a marriage "no matter what". This is absolutely NOT TRUE.

In my home it would be far more damaging if he became religious, in fact it would be a deal breaker for me.

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You said porn is damaging to a marriage "no matter what". This is absolutely NOT TRUE.

In my home it would be far more damaging if he became religious, in fact it would be a deal breaker for me.
I wouldn't date or marry a man who wasn't a Christian.I married a non christian the first time, that was a massive mistake.
Porn damages everyone who looks and takes part, its not always obvious for a while but its not something that is good for us or for those who take part.
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I wouldn't date or marry a man who wasn't a Christian.I married a non christian the first time, that was a massive mistake.
Porn damages everyone who looks and takes part, its not always obvious for a while but its not something that is good for us or for those who take part.
Talking in absolutes takes away credibility.

Drinking damages some who do it.
Drugs damage some who do it.
Porn damages some who watch it.
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Try Sharia Islam - now that will put the fear of God in her! I converted to Catholocism because I liked being the bad guy in Dan Brown movies (some of which are worse than porn)!

This is my quest, to follow that star
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far
To fight for the right, without question or pause
To be willing to march into Hell, for a Heavenly cause
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Talking in absolutes takes away credibility.

Drinking damages some who do it.
Drugs damage some who do it.
Porn damages some who watch it.
Alcohol isn't good for us, nor are illegal drugs, and speeding is also foolish regardless of whether anyone gets injured.
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Alcohol isn't good for us, nor are illegal drugs, and speeding is also foolish regardless of whether anyone gets injured.
All true however the point was that people do all sorts of things that can harm and a portion of the population will be harmed. It is not credible to state outright that ALL people that engage in certain things will be harmed.

Plenty of people can self monitor and regulate their own lives. We do not have to live by religion or 100% abstinence to live full and engaging lives.

IMHO people that can self regulate are far more balanced. Just have to look at the churches where child abuse is rife.
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