Re: So angry at husband!
A couple things to clarify!
First of all, he does make good money and he has no debt, but he didn't build himself credit. He was never TAUGHT this. (His entire family are renters, no assets, no long term investments, etc.) He's been working very hard to do this. The car situation a year ago was a real eye opener for him. He's always operated on the "if I can't afford it I don't buy it" so he never established credit. I, on the other hand, was TAUGHT (my mother is an CCA) and even I dropped the ball in terms of getting credit. If anyone is a failure in the credit department, it's me. I can't hate or not respect him for this. TBH, I lost a little respect for MYSELF for not organizing it sooner. (We both have no debt and not bad credit, just not credit which is why he couldn't qualify.) Anyway, I'm defending him because it would be hypocritical for me not to as I've just started to establish credit myself. Definitely something I regret from my my twenties, but I won't be hypocritical and judge him for not having credit and needing my mom. I do, however, get VERY frustrated that he takes his financial failure (in terms of credit) out on me. It's like he punishes me for it because I know he needed that help.
Also, I actually don't do his laundry! He works construction so he does his work wear in the apartment machines. (They're junk and construction clothes are VERY hard on the machines and he said he wouldn't feel comfortable wearing down my mom's commercial front loader.) I only do his casual wear that's pooled with mine.
A few posters keep going to the soccer thing. Read my VERY first post on TAM. It was about supporting your spouse and his hobbies, in my case soccer. I felt SO guilty for losing interest in his season, but as a working woman I dont have time to watch a man sit on a bench. When he was playing I was there rain or shine