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post #16 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 05:44 PM
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Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

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I've been married for 20 years and would be very sad if my wife died.
Partly because I would not like to live alone. In fact, since 1976 I have never lived alone for more than a few weeks at a time.
Of course there is also the question of sex, but that's not the only reason.
I would probably marry again as soon as I met someone appropriate.

Note that my wife is perfectly healthy, so this is all hypothetical.

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I personally couldn't do it if my spouse died, etc. If we divorced for other reasons such as infidelity, it may be different. My dad died a few months short of their 50th anniversary. I could never see my mom with another person in their house. My husband and I have been together 32 years, married 31. I know if he died first, I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else, in our house, in our bed, around our kids and family. Plus, I believe that once we die, we will meet again in Heaven.


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I have no answer, so I will have to take people's word for it that it is for companionship and sex, but I've wondered the same thing myself.

I guess everyone is different. I've been divorced 6 years, I'm rather enjoy being single and not in a relationship. I just love doing what I want whenever I want and not having to answer to anyone.

I guess that is more enjoyable to me than the thoughts of a relationship.
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People remarry for the same reasons that they married the first time.

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My parents had been married 50 years when my mother died. A year after her death, my father tried to date. He said no one compared to my mother, that all the older single women he met were all crazy, or gold diggers. I'm not sure how he was meeting those crazy gold diggers, because I know several single, older women who are sweet and who have their own money.

I wish he had found someone new to love, because he died lonely of a broken heart missing my mother, only 2 1/2 years after her death.
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I don't understand how someone could remarry if their spouse died. I couldn't do it. The thought of my husband marrying another woman if I died makes me cry (I would never say that to him though). It wasnt my choice to go...seems so unfair.

I know I'm being selfish...again...I would never say this to my husband but I wouldn't like it.
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Seriously, companionship? I think it's for the hot sex and nothing more.
Oh My! If my Great-Grandmother or Siblings found out or knew that their Father and Step Mother in their 70s was having hot wild sex in the same bed he once shared with their Mother I can't imagine how their reactions would have been lol.

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People remarry for the same reasons that they married the first time.
I think it depends. I do think people who remarry in their 60s and 70s after death more often than not is for companionship and company.
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I think it depends. I do think people who remarry in their 60s and 70s after death more often than not is for companionship and company.
Isn't that why most people get married? I think having a life partner is companionship. Someone to share life with. If you look at the threads here, sex isn't a high priority for a lot of people even when they are young. On the other hand, I know for some people that sex is important to end of life.

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Isn't that why most people get married? I think having a life partner is companionship. Someone to share life with. If you look at the threads here, sex isn't a high priority for a lot of people even when they are young. On the other hand, I know for some people that sex is important to end of life.
You Right. over time it grows and changes becomes about conmanship and respect.

Obviously, Long term Marriages are about a lot more than just sex and romance and usually are not top priority in longer lasting marriages because they feel more secure and comparable
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I don't understand how someone could remarry if their spouse died. I couldn't do it. The thought of my husband marrying another woman if I died makes me cry (I would never say that to him though). It wasnt my choice to go...seems so unfair.

I know I'm being selfish...again...I would never say this to my husband but I wouldn't like it.
And I would WANT my husband to remarry at some point. True, it wouldn't be my choice to leave him in death, but I'd be gone. No rrason he shouldn't move on, at some point, and remarry... If he wants to.

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Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Personally I WANT my W to find someone good (my siblings can vet them) and remarry when I'm gone. I've thought a lot about that and it's one reason I've pushed her the last few years to update her wardrobe etc. (men are pretty shallow in the initial meeting phase).


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