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post #31 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 11:15 PM
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Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

I have been with a woman in my life since I was 14. I do not like coming home to an empty house. I like being able to have sex with someone I love and not worry about catching an STD. I like to be in love. I live among over 150,000 senior citizens with women outnumbering men 10-1 since the men die off first most times. Our retirement community that spans 3 counties was written about and it made the news worldwide. It seems that at one time we led all age groups in STDs. The reason is that we are all baby boomers or younger and married so long that we did not use condoms. The women figured that they cannot get pregnant and back in our day, only prostitutes and their customers had STDs. If you had sex with a regular girl, odds were very high in your favor that she did not have an STD.

The women fight for the small pool of available men. They live together, get married if that is financially beneficial or just date different people each week. In my family, the women never remarried but the men did. Then again those that never remarried were raised thinking that sex is dirty. I had a friend who had a bad habit of marrying a much younger woman, then cheating on her and eventually marrying the girl he cheated on. He was on his 4th wife when I saw him last. I once asked him why does he keep getting married when he knows he can never be with one girl and he said it was because he fell in love with the women and they wanted to get married, probably to get hold of his money since he owned an advertising agency. After his 4th wife he almost went bankrupt. Many of his children were at or nearing college age. The last I heard, he was using his TV studio to make porn videos to suppliment his income. Some guys never learn.

I love to be in a relationship but do not know if I will re-marry should my wife die before me. It depends if it makes financial sense of not or if the new girl is hot or not.

Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality.

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post #32 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-21-2017, 11:42 AM
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Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Some do not remarry however some reasons they've told me..

No longer needs sex - my Aunt who has been alone for 39 years.

No one would compare with my dead husband - A lady from church who had suitors I think she was alone for 20 years.

Personally I can't imagine adapting to someone else at this time to live with them, dating with limits yes.

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Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Having two people in a house is a far different living situation than having only one. Just adding one person to bounce ideas off of, one person to share meals with - whether there's romance or not - is huge.

I'd say if a person has been acclimated to sharing everything for 50+ years, then when the sharing partner passes away, it's perfectly normal to want another partner. The next one won't be compared with the last, the affection will be different - or maybe not there, at age 70, lots of folks just find any kind of companionship excellent.

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