Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage? - Talk About Marriage
General Relationship Discussion Although anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.

User Tag List

 32Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #1 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 03:26 PM Thread Starter
Registered User
 
WORLDJR91's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 8
Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

This is something I have wondered about sometimes. What are common reasons for People to remarry after 30, 40 and 50+ years of Marriage? I am talking Marriages that (were happy ones) ends in the Death of Spouse, not Divorce. Especially when they remarry only a couple after their last spouse death.

I can understand after 10 or 20 Years of Marriage but I wonder about Marriages that were much longer than that. Personally If I was Married for 40 years or 50 years and My spouse I do no think I marry again but that just me.

I don't have a problem with people remarrying after being with a spouse for many decades. Though If I was a Child of a Parent who remarried after being with My Mom or Dad for 50 years I would find it kind of weird or hard to getting used to. Especially if other parents died only a couple years before.

I have a Great-Great grandparent who was happily married for 51 years and had 9 Children. My Great-Great Grandmother died in 1964 and My Great-great grandfather married again in just under 2 years later after her death at age 71 to a woman who was actually same age and had also been widowed once. That Second Marriage only last Five Years when she died.

I think a lot of it has to do with feeling lonely and maybe wanting that companionship.

WORLDJR91 is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 03:37 PM
Forum Supporter
 
TX-SC's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,610
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Some people like being married. I could see me doing it again.

Sent from my LG-US996 using Tapatalk

"You are talking about the nonsensical ravings of a lunatic mind!" Victor Von Frankenstein
TX-SC is offline  
post #3 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 03:38 PM
Member
 
stixx's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2017
Posts: 261
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Who wants to grow old and die alone?

I sure don't.
stixx is offline  
 
post #4 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 03:49 PM
Member
 
Ursula's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Posts: 264
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

I agree with the above posters; having a companion in life, and for the company.
Ursula is offline  
post #5 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:00 PM
Forum Supporter
 
arbitrator's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Central Texas/Brazos Valley
Posts: 11,515
Cool Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Foremostly, to combat loneliness!

And right now, I'd absolutely love to be married again!

But after being spurned by two cheating wives, I seem to have some real issues in ever beginning to trust another woman again with something quite as delicate as my heartstrings!

"To love another person is to see the face of God!" - Jean Valjean from Les Miserables

My Story! http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-t...andonment.html
arbitrator is online now  
post #6 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:02 PM
Member
 
Maricha75's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 7,292
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Companionship, usually. My parents had celebrated 40 years of marriage October 2013. March 2014, my mom died. My dad is not *looking* to remarry. But, I told him awhile ago that if he ever decided to remarry, I would stand behind him (depending, of course, on the character and motives of the woman). I understand that the yearning for a companion can be very great. I also know that no one will ever replace my mother. Dad will never live with a woman, alone, unless they are married. But, like I said, he isn't looking. If he was? Companionship.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G930A using Tapatalk

You can use the 2x4 without adding nails to it.
Maricha75 is offline  
post #7 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:10 PM
Moderator
 
MattMatt's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: England
Posts: 19,175
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by WORLDJR91 View Post
This is something I have wondered about sometimes. What are common reasons for People to remarry after 30, 40 and 50+ years of Marriage? I am talking Marriages that (were happy ones) ends in the Death of Spouse, not Divorce. Especially when they remarry only a couple after their last spouse death.

I can understand after 10 or 20 Years of Marriage but I wonder about Marriages that were much longer than that. Personally If I was Married for 40 years or 50 years and My spouse I do no think I marry again but that just me.

I don't have a problem with people remarrying after being with a spouse for many decades. Though If I was a Child of a Parent who remarried after being with My Mom or Dad for 50 years I would find it kind of weird or hard to getting used to. Especially if other parents died only a couple years before.

I have a Great-Great grandparent who was happily married for 51 years and had 9 Children. My Great-Great Grandmother died in 1964 and My Great-great grandfather married again in just under 2 years later after her death at age 71 to a woman who was actually same age and had also been widowed once. That Second Marriage only last Five Years when she died.

I think a lot of it has to do with feeling lonely and maybe wanting that companionship.
Because they didn't die at the same time as their late spouse?

Maby people leave "get married, again!" instructions.

http://mygeneralblog1.blogspot.co.uk
http://mygeneralblog1.blogspot.co.uk...-cheaters.html (Be afraid UK cheaters! CheaterVille has come to the UK!
MattMatt is online now  
post #8 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:41 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Posts: 1,057
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Why remarry? I suggest that you read Dr. Sue Johnson's book Hold Me Tight. It explains that people are social animals and the all primates have a huge need for companionship. We also have huge need to people to people physical contact, i.e. touch. In this age of STD's/STI's, etc. marriage is one way of having intimacy and touch that is considered by most to be socially acceptable and understandable. If you marry a man then your children will not be as likely to objecting to you living with him or having sex with him.

I can understand your approach of how could I find anyone that would replace my spouse. However, you might also want to read the book Still Sexy after All these Years. It is a collection of short stories, based on interviews of women over the age of 50 who have for one reason or another (death, medical condition, divorce, etc.) no longer have a spouse or significant other in their life. It is all about how they find ways of including either sexuality or sensuality within their lives. Please check it out of the library and read it. It was recommended by the sex therapist that helped save our marriage as something to think about if my wife refused to work on saving our marriage.

A final reason in this day and age is money. Some pensions only pay the former worker and not a surviving spouse. That could be a pretty harsh reality for some without a lot of financial means. It also is true that two can live together less expensively than two in separate households.
Young at Heart is offline  
post #9 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:44 PM
Member
 
Married but Happy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Florida
Posts: 4,515
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Seriously, companionship? I think it's for the hot sex and nothing more.

Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

CELIBACY IS NOT HEREDITARY.
Married but Happy is online now  
post #10 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:46 PM
Member
 
rockon's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2016
Location: land of liquid sunshine (Florida)
Posts: 919
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by arbitrator View Post
Foremostly, to combat loneliness!

And right now, I'd absolutely love to be married again!
Hmmmm.........I have an older sister I'd like you to introduce to you. Single, pretty, successful and very loyal!

rockon is online now  
post #11 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:52 PM
Member
 
GTdad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Texas
Posts: 2,122
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by rockon View Post
Hmmmm.........I have an older sister I'd like you to introduce to you. Single, pretty, successful and very loyal!
I've met Arb, and he's a good man. Your sister would be in the hands of a True Gentleman.

How does she feel about hog-hunting?
GTdad is offline  
post #12 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 04:53 PM
Member
 
Maricha75's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 7,292
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Married but Happy View Post
Seriously, companionship? I think it's for the hot sex and nothing more.
Well, for some, that may be true lol.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G930A using Tapatalk

You can use the 2x4 without adding nails to it.
Maricha75 is offline  
post #13 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 05:04 PM
Member
 
rockon's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2016
Location: land of liquid sunshine (Florida)
Posts: 919
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by GTdad View Post
How does she feel about hog-hunting?
She (we) grew up with the back woods of Wisconsin a few miles away. Deer hunting was big. Hell, she took out a badger (vicious little creatures) when one attacked her!
rockon is online now  
post #14 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 05:05 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Posts: 6,304
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

Quote:
Originally Posted by rockon View Post
She (we) grew up with the back woods of Wisconsin a few miles away. Deer hunting was big. Hell, she took out a badger (vicious little creatures) when one attacked her!


Back woods of Wisconsin is redundant.
225985 is offline  
post #15 of 38 (permalink) Old 03-20-2017, 05:34 PM
Member
 
Mr. Nail's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Western US
Posts: 2,409
Re: Why do some people remarry after decades of Marriage?

My Grandmother died When I was a child. He remarried quite quickly. When asked Why he said he loved Grandmother and he loved being married so he remarried. I have a neighbor on my block who remarried after being widowered. She was an old friend from high school. Really amazing couple. And I really liked his first wife too.

On the other hand. It's not for me. I'm done. If I end up single for whatever reason, I won't look.
Mr. Nail is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
The Top 3 Unrealistic Expectations that Could Be Poisoning Your Marriage VS Glen Home Page Feature News 2 08-27-2016 02:55 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome