I find it funny because I've witnessed this interaction many times when a guy is talking to a women, and she appears like she is flirting, and then they stop and he is like "oh I could sleep with her if I wanted", or "I can have her If I want" type of talk. I find it hilarious because they are so overly confident. There are times when I'm in a good mood and I'm laughing and joking and the guy is just funny and they probably think "they have me", when in reality I just love to laugh and your funny.
Yep there's a big difference between frivolous flirting and explicit offers. My default position when a woman or even a man (since that sometimes happens) flirts with me, is they're just having some meaningless fun. Sure on some occasions it might be a fishing expedition, yet the fact is for the most part it's nothing more than just wanting to feel good with no intent at all.
The only time I have thought other women have wanted to have sex with me, is when they have made a very explicit pass or in a matter of fact way have asked me to have sex with them.
For example a few years ago, I was out shopping with my wife when this gay man started flirting with me. Flattering though it was, I'm heterosexual and in a monogamous marital relationship with my wife. Yet I certainly don't think he necessarily wanted to have sex with me, nor did I think his flirting was an offer of sex either.
Whereas when I was playing SAHP when our daughter was 1 and our son was 4, I made friends with this woman at a kids playgroup. She was attractive, married, our sons liked each other and we got on as well.
The weirdest thing about being a man taking my kids to playgroup, was the few other men that were there just seemed weird and effeminate to me. I just couldn't relate to those other men at all, yet I had absolutely no problem making friends with some of the other women.
Anyway that led to an invite to hers for a playdate, which saw her dressed somewhat loosely (imagination was not required) when I arrived (which surprised me). I then presumed she would get changed, yet instead she showed me her house and her bedroom where she offered, yet I turned her down so she just shrugged and got changed. I stayed a while longer cause our kids were still playing and subsequently didn't catch up with her again.
Likewise a few months into my exclusive relationship with my wife, she and I started effectively living together at hers. Although I did maintain my own address in shared housing elsewhere (where I kept most of my stuff) till we got married, lest my wife go through more drama with her mother who had already taken umbrage with her atheism. For the last 18 months I formally lived two doors away, which is where an attractive Japanese woman who was a new house mate propositioned me.
It was the first time I had been there for many weeks, when she started talking to me and asked if she could look at my music collection. So I showed her and after a short while, I could tell through the buzz in the air and her behaviour and the way she was in my space a bit that she was wanting. She then clumsily offered me sex, and then following being turned down wasn't happy about the rejection. Then as a consequence of that, she also claimed I must be gay to not want to do it with her (my wife thought the gay claim was funny). Yet there was no harm since nothing happened, plus she didn't do anything wrong since she didn't know I was with someone else and had only just met me.
Fortunately for the Japanese woman she found a guy that lived across the road who was was up for it, so she got the sex she was after.
If I were unattached or in a non exclusive sexual/marital relationship at the time, without hesitation I would have had sex with them and some of the others who offered as well.
At the end of the day though since I choose not to cheat on my exclusive sexual partner and former partners, I have had no trouble turning down all explicit offers to stray.