It seemed to me that many would feel that I was derailing my wife's thread.
She made one because I am super-resentful and she wants me to be more open. I joined in because I wanted to extinguish quick judgments and give a face to who was resentful and WHY. I was waiting for someone that would say I was being "controlling" by posting in there, and it happened, though I was only trying to offer why I felt resentful and trying to learn how to overcome it. It happened so I am leaving it. It was here:
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/37262-i-need-your-help-please.html
So...
THIS thread is my question to many of our men and women here who had been ignored by their spouses for LARGE periods of time.
Question: How do you, when years of being ignored had taught you to focus only on the parts of life you CAN control (your own life), start focusing again on somebody else's life?
How do overcome that feeling that arises out of knowing that the other person's sudden interest in you has resulted from your loss of interest in them? The thought makes me angry, and this resentment makes it hard to reconnect.
Anybody here ever gotten TRULY over resentment when your partner stopped showing you love for a while?
I've read threads on here discussing this and it is one of the most open and ambiguous topics, i.e. The topic of Infidelity is much more single-pronged to solve, divorce, etc.
This seems much harder for me to come up with a plan.
I wrestle with this daily.
Please help.
She made one because I am super-resentful and she wants me to be more open. I joined in because I wanted to extinguish quick judgments and give a face to who was resentful and WHY. I was waiting for someone that would say I was being "controlling" by posting in there, and it happened, though I was only trying to offer why I felt resentful and trying to learn how to overcome it. It happened so I am leaving it. It was here:
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/37262-i-need-your-help-please.html
So...
THIS thread is my question to many of our men and women here who had been ignored by their spouses for LARGE periods of time.
Question: How do you, when years of being ignored had taught you to focus only on the parts of life you CAN control (your own life), start focusing again on somebody else's life?
How do overcome that feeling that arises out of knowing that the other person's sudden interest in you has resulted from your loss of interest in them? The thought makes me angry, and this resentment makes it hard to reconnect.
Anybody here ever gotten TRULY over resentment when your partner stopped showing you love for a while?
I've read threads on here discussing this and it is one of the most open and ambiguous topics, i.e. The topic of Infidelity is much more single-pronged to solve, divorce, etc.
This seems much harder for me to come up with a plan.
I wrestle with this daily.
Please help.