Hi there,
I have married with my loving wife for about 4 years. We had sex couple times each week during the first two years, and it was gradually fading away in the third year. Till now we rarely have any sexual activity. To be honest, sexual fulfillment is one of the most emotional needs to me whereas my wife puts it in non-prioritized need.
When I am about to have sex with her, I try every possible way to arouse her sexual emotion by gently touching her back, thigh and kissing her shoulder and her neck. I did it all to her either when we were in bed at night or waking up in the morning. But she isn't responsive to what I am trying arouse her sexual feeling.
Most of the time, she feels indifferent and gives me an excuse that she is exhausted from work all day long and wants to sleep now. She procrastinates to the other next day but when time comes she doesn't show any interest to the promise she gave to me..
I notice that she often tells me that it doesn't the right time to have sex because there is no sufficient lubricant inside her vagina. If she does it will cause pain to her vagina during having sex. So I suggest starting with a foreplay and having an oral sex first in order to spark and arouse her sexual emotion to the point where she REALLY want it and have enough lubricant inside of her so she won't get hurt.
The problem is that not only does she not like to give me an oral sex but she also doesn't want me to give it to her too. Heck, she doesn't show hers to me. She doesn't allow me to have a look directly at her vagina because she is shy. Let alone having the oral sex.
I think that all is proven to the reason why her vagina won't secrete sufficient lubricant that leads to denial of having sex. Sometimes I think about having one night stand but I get filled with remorse and shame of doing it just to fulfill my sexual need outside the marriage. I don't want to get trouble in our relationship just because of it.
Anyone knows how to solve this problem please help sharing your comment.
I really need your help, please.
-Terry
I have married with my loving wife for about 4 years. We had sex couple times each week during the first two years, and it was gradually fading away in the third year. Till now we rarely have any sexual activity. To be honest, sexual fulfillment is one of the most emotional needs to me whereas my wife puts it in non-prioritized need.
When I am about to have sex with her, I try every possible way to arouse her sexual emotion by gently touching her back, thigh and kissing her shoulder and her neck. I did it all to her either when we were in bed at night or waking up in the morning. But she isn't responsive to what I am trying arouse her sexual feeling.
Most of the time, she feels indifferent and gives me an excuse that she is exhausted from work all day long and wants to sleep now. She procrastinates to the other next day but when time comes she doesn't show any interest to the promise she gave to me..
I notice that she often tells me that it doesn't the right time to have sex because there is no sufficient lubricant inside her vagina. If she does it will cause pain to her vagina during having sex. So I suggest starting with a foreplay and having an oral sex first in order to spark and arouse her sexual emotion to the point where she REALLY want it and have enough lubricant inside of her so she won't get hurt.
The problem is that not only does she not like to give me an oral sex but she also doesn't want me to give it to her too. Heck, she doesn't show hers to me. She doesn't allow me to have a look directly at her vagina because she is shy. Let alone having the oral sex.
I think that all is proven to the reason why her vagina won't secrete sufficient lubricant that leads to denial of having sex. Sometimes I think about having one night stand but I get filled with remorse and shame of doing it just to fulfill my sexual need outside the marriage. I don't want to get trouble in our relationship just because of it.
Anyone knows how to solve this problem please help sharing your comment.
I really need your help, please.
-Terry