Re: My girlfriend and I are apart after 2 years, its killing me!
hi viper,
this relationship is very difficult and it actually pains me to read it. i have this friend who dated this girl for about 2-3 years. it got to the point of violence and such and he would beat her to control her. he became very insecure in himself and totally took it out on an innocent girl. anyhoo, she says he's crazy and leaves the relationship. she already had one like this from her father. she leaves. she works on her school and has a certificate to work in in the salon field. due to her vietnamese culture, she believed and felt she was ready to have a family. she found a guy to have a child with and has moved on. my friend was depressed about it and would call her often, but he knew what he did and knew that this is what it has to be. but instead he began a similar cycle. during the breakup of this girl, another girl came in and wanted to steal him away previously. it apprarently worked or else the break-up could not have happened any faster. she moved in his place right after the other girl moved out and she began to be abusive to my friend. strange. anyhoo, after about 2 years with this girl she dumped him because she got tired of him. i can see it was because she was being despised for all the things she did. even fight against me since, my friend is my fiance's cousin!
right now, my friend is trying to find his way. to be a better person and such. and the girl is just busy bed-hopping with the next guy.
i am a very blunt person and try to speak diplomatic, but usually end up nowhere since i lose my train of thought.
so i will just say. that you love this girl, but now it's time for you two to grow. if you get back together, fine. if not maybe even better. you'll do fine, but you are going through grievances right now. it's time for you to heal and focus on yourself. once you improve to who you want to be, then maybe the sunny side will shine on you.
this wishy-washy uncertainty is not good because it just plays with everyone. if she doesnt want to be with you respect it. if you mistrust her that she's messing around, just leave her be. focus on your inner harmony and what you have to do. it's just time for you to heal.
oh yes and about my friend. he came to me asking, "did i do right this time?" and i told him he did. he treated her the best he could to make up for what false he did in his last relationship. the only sad part is that it wasnt his first love since she is practically married and mothering a child from her new guy since a year now.
Re: My girlfriend and I are apart after 2 years, its killing me!
Wow, Hope the best for your friend. I know what you mean though about growing and going through grievances. I'm doing the best I can, I wasn't able to give her the space she needed at first but I've gotten better at it, focusing on whatever I could to keep my mind off her so we could both have time away. She says she hates it when I don't talk to her and knows that asking for space won't work so thats why she suggested being friends, which actually shocked me when she said that. But I guess we'll just see where it goes from here.
Re: My girlfriend and I are apart after 2 years, its killing me!
Good just remember the best thing you can get out of it is to understand how to identify your own problems and be able to learn to fix them. It is always nice to sit down with someone that knows their stuff and can help you too. Plus we bloggers will always be here to add our two cents as well.
Re: My girlfriend and I are apart after 2 years, its killing me!
