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post #16 of 151 (permalink) Old 03-27-2017, 06:12 AM
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New Guy from UK... Hi all

Sex is terrible.

If you bring up the relationship issues she argues.

You really didn't want to marry her. She dragged you.

You give up your hobbies

She would rather spend the days with her mates than nights with you.

Well, don't you see the marriage sucks.

She wants a baby to meet her needs. You don't meet her needs. And she certainly doesn't meet yours.

It won't get better. Ever.

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She dragged, well I did but I wanted to put it off but then I was blackmailed almost into doing it... it's a long story but I just wanted to chill and relax and there was no rush

I think the fact I was getting no sex at the time was a big thing and just one little glimpse at it does the usual male thing of gookg ' yea ok then lets do whatever you want'

Flying was my one big passion in life , I would love to share it with someone

All our mates have kids, she goes out with them in the day when I'm at work so I don't get to see them because it's already been done

It's good to get a different perspective on it, my parents say the same as you lot as a matter of fact.

I want someone to want me, not the nice house and the fact I can give her a kid and put up with her being tired all the time
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She's not really tired all the time - she just uses that as an excuse. Because if she is tired now, how can she handle a baby?

And she blackmailed you into marriage??

And you gave up your passion (flying) so she can have hers (babies)?

She can get babies from anyone.

Is she going to quit working when the baby comes?

Leave now or get stuck with child support and spousal support.

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I told her to cut down hours and go to days of a baby came but she wants to stick to nights ... which is stupid as that's an option where she works and she just wants the money

She is tired but says she isn't, she's tired because she works all night and sees her mates all day so sleeps on the sofa when I'm gone

Well I don't know if blackmail is the right word, but she sent a message to everyone saying that the weddings off I didn't want to marry her which obviously caused everyone to be like oh my god what a twat how would he do such a thing??? So I have in

I give up my passion because she isn't interested in flying with me , and it's not much fun alone I want to share it with other people.

I have suggested let's use the six months of not trying for kids to go on holidays and do some crazy things but none have happened , iv been the travel agents and there's no enthusiasm for it form her part!!! I expected some excitement towards a trip to the Maldives but she couldn't get the time off
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She would make an excellent mum, there's no denying that
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She would make an excellent mum, there's no denying that


Yes. But a terrible or non existent wife

You will essentially be a single dad when them baby comes, but no chance of getting affection, touch, or sex.
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It's good to hear , it's exactly the concerns of my parents when I speak to them ... she would be all about the baby

I live a single life now ... doing my own thing
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Re: New Guy from UK... Hi all

Try a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

I don't actually see any hope for your marriage.

My advice is to get back your identity and work on yourself.

Being a strong and confident man who is self sufficient and satisfied with his life is attractive.

You will attract women. Your current roommate isn't someone you should be considering having a baby with much less sex.

I was actually cringing reading your posts.

I would have a few shocking suggestions but I don't think your ready or equipped to follow them.

I would honestly just like it if you walked away leaving her a letter containing everything you have written in your posts.

She isn't your wife. She is your owner. This is a very bad match.

Get out I would say.
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P.S. I get a kick from your name!
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Do your wife's mates that have kids work outside the home or are they stay at home moms?

What did you and your wife agree to about working after the baby is born?

It appears here dream life is to be a mom, and hang out with her mates with kids all day.

Your role in her life will be to provide the income for her dreams.

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You can find a woman who wants to have an enthusiastic, happy, frequent sex life with you. You can find a woman who wants to go on romantic, sexy, weekend? getaways with you. You can find a woman who can't want to see you when you get home from work and can't keep her hands off of you. You can find a woman who contributes as much energy to the relationship as you do. You can find a woman who wants to go flying with you

You seem to doubt these things exist. They do.
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Try a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

I don't actually see any hope for your marriage.

My advice is to get back your identity and work on yourself.

Being a strong and confident man who is self sufficient and satisfied with his life is attractive.

You will attract women. Your current roommate isn't someone you should be considering having a baby with much less sex.

I was actually cringing reading your posts.

I would have a few shocking suggestions but I don't think your ready or equipped to follow them.

I would honestly just like it if you walked away leaving her a letter containing everything you have written in your posts.

She isn't your wife. She is your owner. This is a very bad match.

Get out I would say.
OP, here is a link to the book. It's free. https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glo...r_Nice_Guy.pdf
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You can find a woman who wants to have an enthusiastic, happy, frequent sex life with you. You can find a woman who wants to go on romantic, sexy, weekend? getaways with you. You can find a woman who can't want to see you when you get home from work and can't keep her hands off of you. You can find a woman who contributes as much energy to the relationship as you do. You can find a woman who wants to go flying with you

You seem to doubt these things exist. They do.

Maybe it just seems like a long shot ... I think when your stuck in a rut it's hard to see the way out.

I think to be honest I could cope with a lower amount of intimacy if it wasn't nights 3 or 4 times a week and then tired for the 5th

I'd love all of those things, I see friends that go inand see there partners and the partner can take a joke and share some banter back with finding it awkward or feeling forced



Her friends work normal shift and then go home and see there partners after spending the Time with her and then she goes off to work.

I have so many dreams, I dream of flying around Europe stopping off at different countries and seeing somewhere and something different and then going somewhere else

I have dreams of European road trips , going to the thestre or s musical concert but I just wish she shared them with me
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OP, here is a link to the book. It's free. https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glo...r_Nice_Guy.pdf

Please share your suggestions, I may cringe or may not be ready but I need to hear them

I'll check out the book too
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OP, here is a link to the book. It's free. https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glo...r_Nice_Guy.pdf
You are awesome!
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