Re: 3 Signs You're Trying to Fix Your Spouse (And Why You Shouldn't)
The first time we went to the movies, back in 1993, my husband remarked scornfully on all the people eating in the theater. That must not have been a tradition in his native country, where people generally did not eat outside mealtimes. He said those people looked like rats.
I was kind of bummed out to hear his position on snacks at the movies. I asked him if he did not think it might be fun to get a snack? Didn't he feel at all left out when he saw those people with that fun food, while we had nothing?
"No," he said. "I feel proud."
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man