Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: Considering breaking off engagment and relationship with my fiancee
No way you come off looking good if you abandon your pregnant fiancee. The divorce courts will eat you up and spit you out if you get married and then leave her. You still will get slammed for child support and the medical costs. Plus you will always feel guilty for doing so and have to confront your child some day because he mom has been telling him/her that you deserted her because she was pregnant with him/her. Then you next girlfriend will learn about it and have second thoughts about a man who leaves his pregnant girlfriend or wife, soon after the child is born. You are between a rock and a hard place but that is what happens when you do not use protection. Pregnancies, whether planned or unplanned, ruin lots of relationships and marriages. It takes two to make a baby and now you have the responsibility to take care of the child. If you marry you also have to support your new wife. If you do not love her, the logical thing to do is tell her you do not love her but you will be there to support the child and her. You will have child support payments for 18 years. If you divorce after you marry, you will have both child support and alimony. Plus you get to give your wife half of your property and money. All because someone took no protection against pregnancy or wanted a child before they married. You are screwed.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.