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post #16 of 34 (permalink) Old 04-01-2017, 08:49 AM
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Re: Wifes ex has been messaging her

The past is the past only when it remains in the past. She was bringing her ex into your marriage, so it was no longer remaining her past.

You would be wise to keep an eye on things to be sure there is no more contact in the future.

One of the lines in your marriage vows is "Forsaking all others". This means your exes. And it doesn't just mean no sex with others, it means putting your spouse and your marriage ahead of everyone else in every way. Yes, you both need to have friends outside of the marriage, but they are quite low on the list compared to your spouse and the marriage itself.

If she cannot keep her exes out of the picture, she is in violation of her marriage vows. This is not you being controlling, this is you holding the boundaries of the marriage.

In addition, real world experience teaches that the very most likely affair partner is an ex. And, nobody goes into marriage planning on cheating with their ex. Nobody expects that first little message with the ex to lead to an affair. Contact with an ex is playing with fire.

This is why there needs to be strong boundaries around the marriage. There are many temptations and interlopers outside of the marriage trying to cause harm. You need strong walls around the marriage which are tended by both of you. Asking her to cut off contact with exes is not you being controlling, it is both of you ensuring you have those walls to protect your marriage and your family.

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Thanks for the comments guys and gals, lots of good advice. I talked to my wife and she agreed to unfriend her ex. She didn't realize I felt jealous, lol.
If you have to explain to your wife that this was wrong then you have more than the ex to worry about.

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Uhhh... No...
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How freaking disrespectful. I never understand guys who don't stand up for themselves. Allowing your wife to basically neuter you with the controlling meme. I guess you're supposed to allow another man to bust his moves and basically swoop in a destroy your family.

This is not over. Any wife that would continue talking an EX that was flirting is basically an affair waiting to happen? But the guy is sending her pics of his junk and she still talks to him? That means she wants it to go to the next level but is just playing coy, so later she can claim, it just happened.

I would expect that she'll take this further underground. After a co-worker, the number one AP is an ex. They've already had sex so getting together again would be so easy.
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A few things that I would like to note about all this:


Your wife remaining in contact with her ex-boyfriend is inappropriate and counter productive to a marriage.

Your wife discussing his size is also skating on thin ice.

Him sending her pictures of his d!ck is very very inappropriate and disrespectful.

Her commenting on it in any way is even worse in terms of being inappropriate and disrespectful.

Her comparing sizes is the absolute worst.



So while we know that the ex is being a POS, your wife is behaving despicably! You need to resolve this one way or another.

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Send him three pictures.

One picture of a Desert Eagle 50 caliber.

One picture of a pumpkin with a mans face painted on it.

One picture of a pumpkin that has been shot by a large caliber weapon.

Send these pictures with a note saying: "Larger makes a bigger bang."

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I think this whole story is preposterous.

His wife is telling him what a little **** he has, that she's been texting her ex bf who has a big **** and sent her pics of it recently, and he tells her it bothers him and she has the epiphany that it may be making him a little jealous and unfriends him?

Lol, yeah, if this is real, his problems are just beginning.

Hey honey, my ex boyfriends **** is bigger soft than yours is hard!
Look! See his huge **** pic he sent me???

Yeah, I think this is a little off to be true.
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But...........they get us to post.

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I think this whole story is preposterous.

His wife is telling him what a little **** he has, that she's been texting her ex bf who has a big **** and sent her pics of it recently, and he tells her it bothers him and she has the epiphany that it may be making him a little jealous and unfriends him?

Lol, yeah, if this is real, his problems are just beginning.

Hey honey, my ex boyfriends **** is bigger soft than yours is hard!
Look! See his huge **** pic he sent me???

Yeah, I think this is a little off to be true.
I've seen you post on two threads today doubting the veracity of the person who started them.

That isn't right.
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You said she told you Sex with you is uncomfortable. Yet you say you guys have a great sex life? Plus she talks about her ex big penis. Doesn't sound to me that she is all that happy about her sex life.

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Thanks for the comments guys and gals, lots of good advice. I talked to my wife and she agreed to unfriend her ex. She didn't realize I felt jealous, lol.
This has nothing to do with jealousy. This is about respect. Don't let her interpret it as jealousy because resentment can set in and she'll say you're being jealous and controlling and you end up right back where you started at the beginning of this thread.
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The weird irony of this story is that you were seeing her when she was married to this guy. I'm sure she told you how awful her marriage was and so it seemed okay to date a married woman. But, there's a saying and it's really true ''if they'll do it with you, they'll eventually do it to you.'' I think your wife just likes having two guys in her life, how ironic that her ex husband is now the guy she is flirting with, etc...and that used to be you, when she was married to him.

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The weird irony of this story is that you were seeing her when she was married to this guy. I'm sure she told you how awful her marriage was and so it seemed okay to date a married woman. But, there's a saying and it's really true ''if they'll do it with you, they'll eventually do it to you.'' I think your wife just likes having two guys in her life, how ironic that her ex husband is now the guy she is flirting with, etc...and that used to be you, when she was married to him.
He said relationship, not marriage. Still not good, but no indication that she was married to the ex, only dating him.

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Thanks for the comments guys and gals, lots of good advice. I talked to my wife and she agreed to unfriend her ex. She didn't realize I felt jealous, lol.
Newsflash...

Your wife is an idiot. You should divorce her just for that reason alone.
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He said relationship, not marriage. Still not good, but no indication that she was married to the ex, only dating him.

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You're right, I assumed that she was married to him. But, still. lol Hopefully, like the OP said, she'll unfriend him and that'll be it with her contact with the ex.

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