Re: Confused and feeling Temptations
My first husband had 3 kids from his first marriage that he had custody of.
When my mom heard this, she said "RUN." I ignored her because she's always been negative about everything, and she didn't even know him.
When visiting a friend, while she was at work, I had lunch with her outspoken father who I'd never met before and when I mentioned my fiance with the three kids he bluntly asked, what are you going to do when he doesn't need a babysitter anymore?
Prior to getting married I called a therapist for the oldest (vindictive, mean, difficult, etc.) child and when they heard I was going to marry a man with 3 kids they said "You're going to need a lot of therapy."
People tried to warn me, but I laughed it off -- they didn't even know him.
I know you each have a kid, but a 10 year old girl with a *****y mom? And a fiance who can't "see" the distress they are causing you? Good luck sister, you're going to need it. You're looking at at lest 8 years of being ****ed with by two conspiring women and having a husband go from indifferent/oblivious to your pain, to angry at YOU for being bothered by the treatment and disrupting his peaceful life. Trust me on this, it only gets worse after you're married and he feels he no longer has to try to appease you and he really just wants you to STFU about what those two are up to.
For me, the absolute worst part, wasn't the difficult child or her psycho mom, it was being married to a man who made it clear that he did NOT have my back and why didn't I just ignore them.
I had a psychologist tell me that step daughters are hard for women because little girls love their daddy, whereas little boys love their mommy. You are her natural enemy because you are competing with her for Daddy's attention. And you are her mother's natural enemy because you have her ex. And they will probably never tire of sticking you with pins that your fiance will refuse to notice.
Add that to his lies?
Take the advice I ignored: RUN.