Yes I have talked to him, fought with him, cried to him suggested counseling, he says hello and then he never follows through. I stay with him because I love him and we have a child together and I want to grow old with him but I'm not sure if it's healthy or not I know everyone has problems and granted we have even more personal problems but I haven't even gotten into that have caused massive stress. My child who just turned 7 who he's been raising since she was around 3 has been suffering from medical problems that we don't have all the answers to. They just diagnosed her with Tourette syndrome and she scheduled for an MRI soon she has stomach problems and the list goes on. I love him more than I loveed anybody my entire life and he is the only one I desire but he is so hot and cold lately and I'm sexual do to either my age or maybe the stress so this attention and looks that I'm getting and the current problems were having it's confusing and clouding me and making me have thoughts that break my heart to even think. It tears my soul to think of either of use with other people. I felt he was soul mate but lately things are different
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There can be all kinds of reasons people have these medical conditions, but stress can be a major factor. Especially with stomach problems. Your daughter
, just a few years younger than his daughter was when you met and it sounds like if there was something inappropriate going on, it had already been going on.
Can you separate from him for awhile and take your daughter? See if her health magically improves if she's never alone with him?
When I had my step kids, their mom had been molested by her grandfather, she had all kinds of sexual boundary issues and went through a lot of boyfriends. One day her then boyfriend showed up unexpectedly to pick up the girls to take them to visit her as a "surprise." I didn't know what to do so I let them go. He had a pickup truck and put them in the back of it (this was a long time ago when people did that...)
As he was getting them settled in, he rubbed the youngest girl's shoulder (she was 7 or 8). It was just a pat on the shoulder, but something about it, the way his hand lingered or moved... it creeped me the hell out. I felt my gut clench up and I told myself I was just being paranoid.
Well years later it came to light that "one of mom's boyfriends" molested the oldest girl. And it was THAT boyfriend. So not the one I saw him rub, but one of the others. And I think it may have been more than one of her boyfriends because she was already saying and doing "sexy" things that were very inappropriate for a 10 year old. Or she may have seen a lot of sex between her mom and guys. Something was off. Anyhow, sometimes you see something - a glance, a touch, a tone ... and it just sets off alarm bells.