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I can't justify it so I won't try. Being Christian doesn't make me perfect. I'm human just like everyone else. What I can say is my biblical studies have shown it's much worse to make a vow to God to do something and then not do than it is to not vow at all.

And no, I'm not worried about going to hell. Having accepted Jesus as my savior guarantees my place in heaven.
Jesus doesn't expect us to do what we like because we think we can be forgiven. We are supposed to follow Him and His advise, not ignore it.

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So you can sin all you want and you've still got a place in Heaven along with all the serial killers who are given forgiveness right before the fatal injection on death row.

How convenient.
Stixx, anyone who acts that way honestly just doesn't get what being a Christian is all about. Its now how most of us live. Its a terrible attitude to have.
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Stixx, anyone who acts that way honestly just doesn't get what being a Christian is all about. Its now how most of us live. Its a terrible attitude to have.


He's commenting on the loophole.
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He's commenting on the loophole.
Sorry what loophole?
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Sorry what loophole?
The loophole that allows religious people to pretend to be whatever it is they profess to be, while breaking any rules they see fit, yet rest assured they've got a place in heaven because there's no limit to the number of free passes you get.
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The loophole that allows religious people to pretend to be whatever it is they profess to be, while breaking any rules they see fit, yet rest assured they've got a place in heaven because there's no limit to the number of free passes you get.
Not many think that way. Most of us have a far better attitude than that.
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He's commenting on the loophole.
That reminds me... I still need to finish doing my taxes...
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Not many think that way. Most of us have a far better attitude than that.
It's been my experience that religious individuals are the most hypocritical group of people on the face of the planet.
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Forgiveness is for those that follow Christ....that means trying your best to lead a good life and avoid sinful actions. All the whole knowing we will fall short. That does not mean sinning without a true effort to stop. The difference is only known to the individual. We are all sinners, as well as hypocrites

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I'd like to say that I WILL stop but I don't know if I can promise that it'll never happen again. If I encountered a women who swore of premarital sex, it would make it a lot easier for me. But when you're seeing someone and they practically start throwing themself at you, a man can only fight the urge for so long.

OAN, I got an upclose and personal look at what obsessing over a woman looks like today. A coworker I've known for years played me message after message of her ex-boyfriends proclaiming his love for her and his unwillingness to take no for an answer. It was rough to listen to and they broke up 3 months ago. I'm not nearly that bad...wow!
So when you meet the right woman and find out that she also has a long and active sexual history because she couldn't fight the urge that long, I trust you'll be OK with that and not suddenly start throwing your beliefs in her face and expect her to be a virgin when you marry?

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So you can sin all you want and you've still got a place in Heaven along with all the serial killers who are given forgiveness right before the fatal injection on death row.

How convenient.
It doesn't really work that way, but a lot of people think it does. There are going to be a lot of very surprised people at the final judgment.
Salvation isn't based on works, but it based one whom we serve. If we serve God, there will be a heart change and our actions will change as well. Someone who lacks self-control is not acting under the power of God. If you are truly interested in this topic, I recommend you read through Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Romans, Hebrews, and James.

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So I'm sitting waiting on my dinner after just getting off work and thought I'd give an update.

Last night's karaoke outing was just okay. There weren't very many people out. I sang a few songs. Played a few games of pool and then I went home. I wouldn't say I had a blast but I got out of the house for a bit.

Today, day 19 of NC, has been full of all kinds of emotions. Since I've realized she wasn't in to me as much as I thought she was, some of my emotion has been disgust with myself. Deep down I knew something wasn't right, but I allowed my self to stay in it for WAAAYYYY TOOK LONG! I kept finding ways to try to rationalize her actions because her words said something so different. I'm not really surprised that our communication ended when I stopped initiating conversation.

On the flipside, I had the urge to text her when I left work. Of course I didn't but it definitely crossed my mind. I also had an anger phase where thinking of her and how everything unfolded really ticked me off. So I guess today has been somewhat up and down.
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I really feel for you, and I understand your loneliness and frustration. All I can tell you is, for all of us, having a relationship with God takes work. Even when we are no longer in the "honeymoon phase." There are times when I find reading the bible downright blah. Other times, I hear it speak to me. I honestly believe God is speaking to you; you just need to be still and listen. Could it possibly be time for you to sit home alone one evening and just talk to God. Some call it prayer, but I'm not into all that "thee" and "thou" nonsense. Just spill your guts. I've even screamed at God, but at least I got out of my system what I needed to. Just a suggestion ...

I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.

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It's been my experience that religious individuals are the most hypocritical group of people on the face of the planet.
You are totally, 100% correct. Jesus called out the hypocrites of his day; namely, the Pharisees. He called them "vipers" and "whitewashed tombs." Ever read anything Jesus had to say? He didn't ram his beliefs down peoples' throats. He said his peace and left it at that. Those who didn't want to believe or join him, fine. In fact, he wasn't known for healing people until he asked them if they wanted to be healed. He didn't push himself or his beliefs on others.

My father was an atheist, and I recall him telling me, "I have no problem with Christianity. It's the Christians I can't stand."

You are wrong. Sorry. Not ALL Christians are hypocrites and they are NOT the most hypocritical people on this planet. Go check out other faiths. I'm sure they have their fair share of hypocrites too.

I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.

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Mark, what do you like about yourself? What can you brag about? What change have you made to this planet? Time for a gratitude list.
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