7 out of 10 people cheat?

Trickster · 01-02-2012, 02:24 PM

After 19 years, I haven't cheated. In the past, I have had several opportunities with aggressive women that I turned down.

I am not sure what I would do now. I almost don't trust myself. I am not shy like I was before and I am a more confident person. I think I am more attractive now than I was 15 years ago. Women flirt more now than before and I tend to flirt back. All harmless so far. It's just in fun.

I can believe the study.

There was a recent story on yahoo news where a man in his 90's found out about an affair his wife had 40 years ago and they are divorcing. It set a record for the oldest divorce. I'll look for the source. Affairs can be just a one time fling that never happens again and nobody will ever know. I think that can happen a lot more than any study will ever reveal.

Trickster · 01-02-2012, 02:25 PM

Ahhh found it...

World's Oldest Divorce: 99-year-old Man Splits From Wife After 77 Years Of Marriage

It happened 60 years ago...

Trickster · 01-02-2012, 02:31 PM

This is just the ones that admit to it... Almost half of all people.

It's an interesting read.

Nearly Half Of Brits Have Been Unfaithful - But 42 Per Cent Forgive And Forget

Cherry · 01-02-2012, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by tacoma

The 7 out of 10 statistic jibes with my life experience so yeah, I believe it.

Doesn`t surprise me at all.

^^^^ This.
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Thor · 01-02-2012, 10:28 PM

What is the definition of "Cheating" they use for the stat 7 of 10? Is it all out PA or is it any form of EA using the loosest definition.

Is it only marriages or is it all relationships?

I wouldn't trust that number without knowing precisely where it came from. There are a lot of ways to make a horribly incorrect calculation using good numbers.

If we assume 50% do cheat, and it is randomly distributed, we would get 25% of marriages only the man cheats, 25% of marriages only the woman cheats, and 25% both cheat. For a total of 75% of marriages have at least on person cheat. That number seems unbelievable even though it sounds about right that 50% of people cheat.

If your spouse cheats, the rate is 100% as far as you are concerned!

SimplyAmorous · 01-03-2012, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by gonefishin

I know I have been faithful since the day I met my wife (19yrs). I also know I have thought/fantisized about cheating. I have discussed this with my wife, we both agree that it is only normal for people to fantisize about sex with people they are attracted to.

Some may say that I am crossing the line even fantisizing about having sex with a women other than my wife. My wife says it is normal most people fantisize about it; it is only the strong and faithful that do not cross the line. I tend to agree with her.

I just wanted to say I agree with your thoughts here, I have a tremendoulsy close & beautiful marraige ...I can't say I thought too much like this before my sexual awakening, but after it - my mind suddenly was in overdrive in that fantasy realm, I started renting porn, I was having a gooooood time. I didn't cross any lines. He was never worried about that. I have always shared everything with my husband, including wayward thoughts, he was not offended, he found it all a little amusing even. He'd just say to me ..."my dirty old woman" with a smile.

Very very few spouses can be THIS HONEST with each other without being terribly offended. I am happy we can talk openly like that. Funny how as my sex drive has declined back to where it once was, that fantasy life has also taken a dive. What hormones do to our heads is an amazing thing- so I have experienced.

I agree with Bottled up when he said this

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I don't find that statistic hard to believe. The way I see it, our challenge in life is trying to use our intellect to make good decisions and overcome our historical primitive mammalistic physical tendencies.

It's not hard to believe that 7 out of 10 people can't resist their "inner primate".

I would assume the statistic is including EA's....this is what makes it so high.

sandy56 · 01-03-2012, 05:45 AM

cases of cheating the spouse is increasing very fast but its very painful for the victim of this lie who is faithful with his/her spous.