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Old 01-02-2012, 11:08 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I was looking at the advertising banner for cheaterville. I do not believe this statistic.

It makes you think. I know I have been faithful since the day I met my wife (19yrs). I also know I have thought/fantisized about cheating. I have discussed this with my wife, we both agree that it is only normal for people to fantisize about sex with people they are attracted to.

Some may say that I am crossing the line even fantisizing about having sex with a women other than my wife. My wife says it is normal most people fantisize about it; it is only the strong and faithful that do not cross the line. I tend to agree with her.

I would like to read your thoughts on this subject. Do you agree with this statistic. Seems hard to believe. For those that have been faithful, do you fantisize about having an affair?
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:27 AM   #2 (permalink)
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The 7 out of 10 statistic jibes with my life experience so yeah, I believe it.

Doesn`t surprise me at all.
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:28 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Obviously it's a tough thing to study because it's not something typically done out in public, but probably the most authoritative study on the subject is the University of Chicago's rolling survey that's been going since the early 70s. According to that, the figure is about 20-25 percent of men and 15-20 percent of women.

Be very wary of figures cited by those who stand to profit by convincing people that cheating is rampant (i.e. authors who write self help books on the subject, private investigators, sites like cheaterville). It's in their interest to inflate the numbers and frighten you.

And don't forget, misery oves company.
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:30 AM   #4 (permalink)
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There are liars.

There are damn liars.

Then there are statistics.
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:35 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I, myself, would be one of the 3 that doesn't. I've joked to friends that the only thing more faithful than me would be my labrador!

Depending on a person's perspective, that stat could be true. As the betrayed, I would agree, based solely on my personal experience. OTOH, being the faith type I am, I could just as easily disagree with it.

The first thing my Stats prof in college told us was that numbers can be manupilated to back up any claim.
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:45 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I don't find that statistic hard to believe. The way I see it, our challenge in life is trying to use our intellect to make good decisions and overcome our historical primitive mammalistic physical tendencies.

It's not hard to believe that 7 out of 10 people can't resist their "inner primate".
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Old 01-02-2012, 11:54 AM   #7 (permalink)
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One study said that 70 to 75% of people would cheat if they KNEW they wouldn't get caught. I expect that' s where they poached their figure.

I heard on the radio the other day that only 1 out of 5 affairs are discovered. Thats scarey.
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Somewhere between one out of 7 and half that ratio of men are in fact not the biological fathers of the children they think they are.
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Old 01-02-2012, 12:03 PM   #9 (permalink)
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1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce, so I believe it. My ex cheated.

I'm not and never will be a cheater, nor is my husband. I'm so grateful I married a man I can fully trust. My husband is not into porn either, which I'm totally fine with.
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Somewhere between one out of 7 and half that ratio of men are in fact not the biological fathers of the children they think they are.
The study that came up with that figure has been repeatedly disproven. More accurate studies places it at closer to 2 to 3 percent.
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The study that came up with that figure has been repeatedly disproven. More accurate studies places it at closer to 2 to 3 percent.
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About 35% of men who get DNA tested are not the father of the child. Of course they had a reason to get tested.
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About 35% of men who get DNA tested are not the father of the child. Of course they had a reason to get tested.
1. What's your source on that?

2. Even if true, it's obviously a very skewed study. As you note, there's already a reason to question paternity in these cases. A more accurate phrasing might be that 2/3 of men who suspect their child is not theirs biologically are wrong. The oft-cited 10 percent figure comes from a small study involving tests done in cases where paternity already was in doubt. So, one could just as easily frame the results as "In cases where paternity is in doubt, those doubts are disproven 90 percent of the time." Of course, that's not nearly as attention-grabbing or salacious as saying "One in 10 kids are being raised by cuckolds."
Again, more complete, thorough studies have placed the figure below 4 percent.
It's also worth noting that studies have shown the large majority of instances of paternity fraud exist between young, unmarried couples.
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Old 01-02-2012, 01:29 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I believe it.
60% is the usual rough guesstimate and my observations back it up.

If you don't believe it, you are most vulnerable. Tend to your marriage even more if you don't believe the reports.
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Please put links to the information you are citing so that people can read the reports for themselves.

I know that the stats about 50% of all marriages ending in divorce is skewed.

Most divorces are in marriages where the people are 24 years old or younger. After that age, the rate of divorce drops off.


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Old 01-02-2012, 02:17 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I don't care WHAT the true percentage is - even one person cheating on their spouse is too many. I wish no one in the world ever had to feel the pain it causes
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