Re: Jealousy: Good or Bad?
I've had moments where my tail has twitched erratically. It has certainly been insecurity-driven on my part. He notices a mile off. And when I haven't been direct about my feelings he's cut to the chase that I have nothing to feel insecure about. He has little tolerance for it and I'm forced to face that side of myself. It's not that often. I've had women give praise about him when he's not around. I've shrugged it off with a laugh and said, 'Eh he's okay..' I have shared those compliments with him. Yeah, I know I've got a good man.
It's rare that he's displayed jealousy in that way. At a social gathering, he came back to the table and I introduced the guy talking to me. Afterwards we were reflecting on parts of the conversation, as it was interesting. He passed comment that it can take a lot for a guy to talk to a beautiful woman like me. I laughed, 'Whah?!' ...He nodded. There wasn't jealousy though. Pathetic as it sounds, I was left with the warm-fuzzy that he viewed me that way. If he felt someone was out-of-line, that's when his protectiveness emerges, but not derived from jealousy.
We've not experienced envy when the other shines bright... if anything, we encourage it.
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