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post #76 of 100 (permalink) Old 04-06-2017, 10:42 AM
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Some people just can't let things go. The slightest imperfection, misuse of grammar, tone, the smallest unknown detail.. it eats them from the inside out, completely consuming their thoughts.
Not sure where you're going with this but it sounds like something else you can work on.

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I am so confused by the spurious statements made by the OP. My wife and I have been equal partners in our marriage. When she stayed home with the kids, she went out and started a home based business that was more than equal to my salary at the time. Her doing so, was a surprise, we had discussed me carrying us until the kids were in school, but she quickly became bored.

I'm sorry, but from a work and input standpoint, we have never, to my knowledge resented each other.
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I am so confused by the spurious statements made by the OP.
You're confused by my false or invalid statements? Do you know me, have we met? Seems like a flippant statement to make considering you have no background information to support your claim that my statements about a private relationship between two people are.... spurious.

I hope you don't go around using that word like it's common, you'll sound pretty pretentious and a little uppity. Unless you're an editor for the Daily Kos or a speech writer for the DNC, proceed to use spurious in everyday conversations.

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You demonstrate your inferiority complex when you put other men down.

He wasn't putting him down, he correctly labeled this dude. By definition, he is Beta. I was thinking the same thing.
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Can we all just agree that feminism in western 1st world nations has in fact skewed true equality as it relates to marriage and divorce?

Not talking about exceptions "Not all women are like that" - but the norm is women have all the choices and men have none. Get your arse up and go to work. Apologize for being masculine and it is now your job to earn the bacon, be at every Tball game and do half the laundry. Your wife however can work full time, part time or not at all. Oh, and if she decides she doesn't want to be married anymore, she can stay in the house b/c the courts will dictate this.

So, go get a crappy apartment and eat spaghetti or other cheap food while you pay for your ex to live in the big house with the kids that she automatically gets prime custody of (along with $$ child support). Unless your wife is a meth head with a rap sheet she is going to get the kids.

Men are committing suicide at an alarming rate b/c the courts screw them and leave them broken and helpless against the system.

OP - you're a fool if you marry again, but I guess a prenup at least protects you to a degree.
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OP - you're a fool if you marry again, but I guess a prenup at least protects you to a degree.
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Their was a great book written about how the family court system bullied this father into suicide: Bullied to Death https://www.amazon.com/Bullied-Death.../dp/B0149ERBBI

IMO every person going through the process to marry should be required to attend counseling about prenuptial agreements and some light contract law. A marriage is a BUSINESS CONTRACT, why wouldn't you protect yourself when entering into a business contract???

Can you think of any business contract whereas if the venture fails the outcome is that the least productive partner is rewarded and receives the majority of the earned profits and hypothetical future profits? That F---cking insane MAN. Wake up. Marriages are completely unequal business ventures that in no way would be entered into when viewed from this analytical and business minded viewpoint. It's a shame that men love woman much more than woman are capable of giving in return, this love blinds us to future disasters.

The least productive partner in the failed business venture can even have the court system force the successful partner to pay their legal fees! Yeah, that's crazy town. It's really no surprise the family court buildings are harder to access that an airport terminal.

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Can we all just agree that feminism in western 1st world nations has in fact skewed true equality as it relates to marriage and divorce?
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Nope. Won't agree.

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Not talking about exceptions "Not all women are like that" - but the norm is women have all the choices and men have none
Not true, either, but I'll tell ya...if it IS true, then all I have to say is turn-about is fair play. For thousands of years, it was MEN who had all the choices and WOMEN who had none.

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Get your arse up and go to work. Apologize for being masculine and it is now your job to earn the bacon, be at every Tball game and do half the laundry. Your wife however can work full time, part time or not at all. Oh, and if she decides she doesn't want to be married anymore, she can stay in the house b/c the courts will dictate this.

So, go get a crappy apartment and eat spaghetti or other cheap food while you pay for your ex to live in the big house with the kids that she automatically gets prime custody of (along with $$ child support). Unless your wife is a meth head with a rap sheet she is going to get the kids.
This isn't true either. Whatever happened to people negotiating their marriages? And besides, nowadays, if a woman earns more than her husband and goes through divorce, quite a number of men are receiving child support, alimony and even primary and SOLE custody of the kids from their ex-wives.
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He wasn't putting him down, he correctly labeled this dude. By definition, he is Beta. I was thinking the same thing.
What definition would that be?

Are you able to defend that ridiculous MGOTW video you posted? It's full of barely coherent nonsense.

What is Hypergamy?
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Their was a great book written about how the family court system bullied this father into suicide: Bullied to Death https://www.amazon.com/Bullied-Death.../dp/B0149ERBBI

IMO every person going through the process to marry should be required to attend counseling about prenuptial agreements and some light contract law. A marriage is a BUSINESS CONTRACT, why wouldn't you protect yourself when entering into a business contract???

Can you think of any business contract whereas if the venture fails the outcome is that the least productive partner is rewarded and receives the majority of the earned profits and hypothetical future profits? That F---cking insane MAN. Wake up. Marriages are completely unequal business ventures that in no way would be entered into when viewed from this analytical and business minded viewpoint. It's a shame that men love woman much more than woman are capable of giving in return, this love blinds us to future disasters.

LOL!!!

I'll tell ya, I LONG for the day where men are 'owned' as property of their MOTHER'S; where MEN are FORCED to marry a woman who the MOTHER chooses...where only a WOMAN can divorce a MAN and a MAN wasn't allowed to divorce.

How about a WIFE having several husbands? Or that only a WOMAN was allowed to own property?

Seems to me that if 'men' wouldn't like that....arrangement....they shouldn't have done the very same thing to WOMEN for thousands of years.

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Can we all just agree that feminism in western 1st world nations has in fact skewed true equality as it relates to marriage and divorce?
No.

Why do so many so-called Men obsess about feminism? Men of my generation (40s) don't give it a second thought.
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I'll tell ya, I LONG for the day where men are 'owned' as property of their MOTHER'S; where MEN are FORCED to marry a woman who the MOTHER chooses...where only a WOMAN can divorce a MAN and a MAN wasn't allowed to divorce.

How about a WIFE having several husbands? Or that only a WOMAN was allowed to own property?
Yo, I'm going to go ahead and state the obvious. This is 2017, not 1940, and we're living in the U.S., not some 3rd world backwater.

Do you have a valid argument or are you just completely bent about a history book?

I smell a Social Justice Warrior. Must be a slow day at the Huffington Post.
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Men of my generation (40s) don't give it (FEMINISM) a second thought.
Quite a lot has changed since you came of age... IN THE 40'S! lol
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Can you guys bring yourselves to admit that this is a common theme among marriages!?! I see a common thread: "Not all women are like this". The fact that this mantra is repeated followed by posters giving examples how they aren't entitled, lazy and are hardworking screams that this is the reality.

Open your eyes! EVERY DAY due to my job schedule I slip off to the gym to work out. I see gaggles of stay-at-home moms who I've gotten to know and guess what? They are educated at Furman, William and Mary, Va Tech, Michigan St- and their kids are all in school. They talk about all the outings they do together. Its the lives of Riley.

The occasional mention of their husbands is followed by an eye roll. I can imagine these poor meal tickets being turned down for sex, coming home to a *****y demeanor.

Society has created feminist Princesses. What recourse does the Meal Ticket have? Well, he can try and get her to work outside of the home. (BTW - taking care of babies is a HARD job, I'm not negating that- but add in "mother's mornings out, cleaning lady, child watch at the gym"). Or he can divorce, break up the family and guess what? He gets to live in a $hitty apartment while she lives in the house that he pays for. The mother "automatically" gets custody b/c she has a VaJajay.
70% of married women have jobs.

About 50% earn as much or more than their husbands.

Clearly they are not all at the gym being "feminist Princesses".

What is really funny is you are talking about the women you see at the gym when you are there. So if we follow your line of thinking, you are some kind of "Prince" since you are just at the gym goofing off.
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What definition would that be?



Are you able to defend that ridiculous MGOTW video you posted? It's full of barely coherent nonsense.



What is Hypergamy?


Sorry, SweetPea- I neglected to answer your question. I'm on my phone, so I can't type my own lengthy reply, but here are a few comments and a link that will help.


I can clarify later if you like? Women view men as a utility. A wallet, sperm donor, father for her offspring. Women try to mold there often alpha men into a Beta and then later reject him b/c Chad at the gym is more masculine and excites her. Well, you created this problem.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/...nt_and_future/



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