Re: The confusion of it all
So just a little vent here and I guess an update to things, lol. My wife has been away for the past week with a friend on a trip the two of them had been trying to plan for about 10 years and just never found the time to take. Personally I did feel it was a good idea to get away with one of her best and oldest friends, I figure that with everything going on in our relationship it would be a nice break for both of us and it would give her a chance to relax and reset.
So the day she left for her trip was her birthday, so the night before we celebrated, nothing crazy, just us, our son and a close friend. I don't think she really expected anything given how things have been and the fact that months ago she had pretty much completely blown off my birthday. So we were just sitting around having a couple drinks and I whispered to my son to go get mommies present and her birthday cards. He did and kind of snuck up on her and gave them to her, he then told her to wait to open them until after the cake. She opened her present, which was really from our son, and read his card and gave him big hugs, kisses and thank him. Then she opened the card from me, again nothing crazy or romantic, just a nice card with a message in it about how proud of her I am because of her new job that she's excited about, how I think this is going to be a great year for her, and that I loved her. She read the card, put it down and continued right with the conversation we were having prior, no smile, thank you, kiss....nothing. It didn't phase me much because her attitude towards pretty much anything I've said or done recently has been fairly dismissive most of the time. It did bother me a little that she basically didn't acknowledge anything, but whatever.
So the next morning she left for her trip and it's just been me and our young son for the week. Since she's been gone I have not initiated any conversation with her, my feelings were to just let her be and relax. Surprisingly she has been texting every morning "good morning", we'd chat a little bit about what her plans for the day are and anything going on at home that was interesting and that would be it. Occasionally through the course of each day she would text asking how my day was going or sending me a picture of her, I would respond but the same as I have been doing, minimally. As the week went on our conversations when she texted got better and we'd chat longer. There were a couple times when the conversation was going well and she'd say something and the timing was right so I'd throw out a flirty little comment about what she said. And as usual, the comment would be dismissed and she'd either change topics or just go right on with the conversation. Again, it didn't phase me much since that's just the way things have been but I had figured the timing and mood of the conversation was right so I threw out the comments. We were chatting last night before bed and I had asked her if she was sad that it was the last night of her trip, she said no that she was ready to come home and felt good. I told her that was great and that I'm happy that she'll be home again, she replied back "thank you" but that was it.
The one thing that has bothered me a little bit has been how she hasn't seemed to want to talk to our son since she's been gone. She Skyped with him the first day she was gone and she asked how he was doing when we'd text, but that was it. Typically when she's away or we're away together without him she Skypes with him everyday and sometimes calls to talk to him each day as well, but not this time. The only real reason this all bothers me is it just seems like she totally disconnected herself from her life for a week, which don't get me wrong I do feel it was a good thing for her, but it's just odd that she hasn't wanted to talk to him at least.
So now she'll be home from her trip tonight and I'm really curious to see how things will be. Things had been improving some before she left, but I'm not expecting much. What I'm even more curious about it how next week will be. Our son is off from school and going to stay at my in-laws for the week because we both have to work. This is another reason why her not seeming to want to talk to our bothers me, she's been away for a week and now he's going to be away for a week. I'd think that she'd want to get as much time with him as she could but it doesn't seem that way. But anyway, I'm curious to see how next week will be when it's just her and I with no kid and no kid responsibilities. I'm not planning anything but I think I will throw out there a couple times of meeting up for dinner or drinks after work. Just something to get the two of us out of the house together and acting like adults, lol. But we'll see how things go, hopefully they go better than they have been.