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post #1 of 34 (permalink) Old 04-06-2017, 02:10 AM Thread Starter
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So Im new to this platform and I would like to say hello to you guys!

I'm 24 years old and I think Iam in the wrong chat for this but I give it a try. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 months and she never wants to have sex with me. I don't know what to do, everytime I ask her why she tells me "because of your penis" how to interpret that? Thanks

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Too large? Too small? Personal hygiene issues? Your insistence in referring to it as "womb raider" when presenting it to her?

Gonna need more details than just "it's your penis"
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You need to ask her. It is too big or too wide, or is it a bit odd looking? As a woman those are the things that would put me off.

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So Im new to this platform and I would like to say hello to you guys!

I'm 24 years old and I think Iam in the wrong chat for this but I give it a try. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2 months and she never wants to have sex with me. I don't know what to do, everytime I ask her why she tells me "because of your penis" how to interpret that? Thanks


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Has she had sex with her previous boyfriends and have you had sex with previous girlfriends.If she is a virgin then she may be nervous but if you had sex with previous girlfriends then she has a problem and rather than waste time in therapy I would move on.
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I asked her many times and she always starts looking a bit ashamed so I don't know what she thinks if it's to big or to small.


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Smallness doesnt matter, it really is what you do with it. Largeness is a different issue. It can be very painful and uncomfortable if it is too big. If it is a funny shape / bent it can also be uncomfortable.

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2 months in and you're already having issues with sex.

Cut ties with her and don't look back.

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everytime I ask her why she tells me "because of your penis" how to interpret that? Thanks
So if you have only been in this relationship for two months, there is a multitude of reasons that she may be concerned about your penis. Here are a few random guesses which may or may not have anything to do with your current situation:
  • What form of birth control have the two of you discussed?
  • Has she had a negative experience in a previous relationship?
  • Does she have a strict moral code of conduct that forbids premarital sex in her religion?
  • Do you practice good hygiene?
  • Are you sure she is your girlfriend and not just a plutonic friend with snuggly benefits?

I could go on and on, but as another person mentioned, you may have to give us a little more information or else we just kind of have to guess.

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IDK, two months in and she has no interest in having sex with you, move on ...
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Because "of" your penis, or because "you have" a penis? Closet lesbian, perhaps? Anyway, it doesn't matter, unless she can give you a reasonable and acceptable explanation that also includes a way to fix whatever the issue really is. If she can't, then simply split up.


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Because "of" your penis, or because "you have" a penis? Closet lesbian, perhaps? Anyway, it doesn't matter, unless she can give you a reasonable and acceptable explanation that also includes a way to fix whatever the issue really is. If she can't, then simply split up.
Lol, didn't think of the bolded. Maybe she is being that literal!
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She doesn't like the way you penetrate her. Too hard, too softy, too soon, too late.

If you can have sex with someone you can talk about sex with that person so ask her!

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If she can't communicate with you, you need to move on. Nothing good will come from a relationship with someone who tells you that there is a problem but won't tell you what that problem is.
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I would ask her again what she meant by what she said. Tell her that there's nothing to be ashamed of, but that you need to know what she means. Once you have the answer, I would go from there. It could be that she's a virgin and is scared to have sex; that's understandable. If she's not a virgin, but has issues around this subject, I would probably cut ties, and move on.
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Smallness doesnt matter
Of COURSE it matters.
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