Originally Posted by Justtryingtosurvive View Post
They texted me saying they were gonna come over to visit my son and I. But I didn't respond to them at all, They aren't normally like this at all usually they are pretty stable and levelheaded. Lawyer said to get an order of protection if they keep on being harassing and demanding like this.
They ought to be apologizing rather than demanding anything. To treat you this way when you are grieving and injured is terrible.
As a grandparent, I understand the love a grandparent has for their grandchild. My grandbaby certainly has my heart. But I cannot imagine taking such a stance as these grandparents have taken. They are not thinking of the best interests of their grandchild or even about their relationship with him. It's stupid of them to act like this. Frankly I wouldn't blame you if you did take out a protection order against them after what they have said to you, especially as they are disregarding you as a parent. This is their grandchild, not their child. No matter how much they love this child, they are walking on thin ice.
I thought that in the case of the death of one parent that you would have no choice but to give them visitation, but after looking into it further I found out that I was wrong, so my opinion on what should be done has completely changed. If you will be forced to deal with them, then better to try to make it work, but since it looks like they really have no rights whatsoever, then you don't have to put up with their shenanigans and I personally think you are taking the right course of action in dealing with them. They are way out of line and fortunately you do not have to tolerate it.
I believe in the power of relationship between grandchildren and grandparents. I have examples in my own life of how wonderful that is. And now, as a grandmother, I am thrilled to be building a close, loving relationship with my grandchild. However, I also cut my father off my from children and stopped contact with him when he was taking liberties with my children by exposing them to things that I believed were harmful and he was also undermining me to them. When he did that, he lost his privilege to have any sort of relationship with them. So I do believe that taking a hard line is appropriate when a grandparent decides they are going to take over and stand between a child and his parent.
If they were to repent of their interference in the parent/child relationship, then maybe a solution could be found, but these grandparents have shown no remorse whatsoever. They are still demanding and have not in any way shown they regret their adversarial behavior.