Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: In a van down by the river...
Re: Vacation separately - sign we are in trouble?
Your wife has lied to you, both directly and through lies of omission. Her behavior is completely unacceptable for long term marital success. Her excuse of having a controlling ex-husband is just that. An excuse. You are not that type of person and don't deserve the situation she is placing you in. Worse case scenario, she's cheating on you. Best case, she's emotionally manipulating you, partially through deceit. You've only been married 6 months. I hope you and her have not yet combined your assets. For your sake, if you haven't, DON'T! If you already have, open your own separate account. Start saving your money and do not pay any of her bills. Show her the path she will follow if she continues to choose her personal independence over your combined relationship.
Normally, I am not inclined to advise a "hardball" approach, but in your circumstance, I think it most certainly applies. It will pay off for you in the long run too. Either she will get the hint and be a genuine partner to you or it will help to ensure you a better return after divorce proceedings. Remember that your independence and happiness is now at stake too. She is only looking out for herself right now. You need to do the same and have that "Plan B" ready in case it comes to that...