I might hit my wife - Page 2 - Talk About Marriage
General Relationship Discussion Although anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.

User Tag List

 46Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #16 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 07:44 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Posts: 6,304
Re: I might hit my wife

Let us know how jail works out for you. Look for Manchester. He is there occasionally.

225985 is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #17 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 07:45 AM
Member
 
inmyprime's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: London
Posts: 1,294
Re: I might hit my wife

She loves spanking and when I am violent-ish in bed. That's what made me realise that she's teasing out this side of me on purpose sometimes. However I also don't want to sound like a typical abuser who thinks that their wife is asking for it! :-0
She is otherwise like an angel though. Very strange mixture. Sorry for TJ. It's not about my relationship on this thread. Thought i offer a comment that it's not an uncommon feeling. But there is a clear line (in bed, the line seems to be more blurry).
inmyprime is offline  
post #18 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 07:59 AM
Member
 
inmyprime's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: London
Posts: 1,294
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by shrah25 View Post
As far as relationships go, I have seen so many couples who have got the most extraordinary marriage where they grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually with each other and have created a love that is so pure, it's beautiful to see. Your comment about a relationship requiring work - well, that goes without saying. This is absolutely paramount for anything to grow in life. For some reason, as a society, we are prepared to go to the gym and build muscle, we're prepared to grow our businesses but very few make the real commitment to do the same for their relationship. This, in my opinion, is what causes so many relationships to fail.
I don't think we are disagreeing. You are saying that marriages can work if both put effort into them. I am saying the same thing, but emphasizing the "requiring effort" part. Loving your child requires no effort whatsoever. The feeling is there the moment it's born (or maybe even before). Before you say that a relationship with your child also requires work, I will say that you can never really "unlove" your child. However couples break up and move on all the time, and fall in love with somebody else. You might say that that means that the couple perhaps was never truly in love with each other in the first place while I will say that....I should probably stop having dialogues in my head :-)
inmyprime is offline  
 
post #19 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 11:06 AM
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2016
Posts: 2,884
Re: I might hit my wife

Losing control and hitting someone is a mistake you don't get to make even once. Control is what separates us from animals - hit her and you are not a man but an animal. You haven't yet, so you are still in control. You need to strengthen that control.

If she makes you so angry that you fell like you have a right to hit her, then why on earth are you in a relationship?


BDSM is completely different. With safe words etc, play however you like if your partner enjoys it rough.
uhtred is offline  
post #20 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 11:42 AM
Forum Supporter
 
SunCMars's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: North Coast Nationalist-burg, U.S.A.
Posts: 2,775
Re: I might hit my wife

Go to a costume store.

Buy a wig that is the same color as your wife's hair.

Buy a similar dress.

Get a girdle. The full length ones that have a bra attached.

Go home

Strip down "nekid", put on the bra, stuff the bra with foam.

Borrow a set of her panties....a well worn pair that has already taken "a set". Her bottom and hips have long shaped it.

Put on the dress.

Put on makeup and eyeliner.

Get a pair of her bedroom slippers, put those on. I say this because finding a pair of stilleto heel in your size is going to take too much time.

Stand before a full length mirror in your house. Take a selfie.

Now.....beat the crap out of yourself. Punch your nose, your eye sockets over and over. You want black eyes and a bloody nose.

Take a selfie.

Now.....do you feel better?

Now remove the feminine articles and wash them. Get the blood out of them. Luminol proof them.

Take a shower.

When she gets home and asks what the hell happened to you, tell her that you lipped off to a really, really big women at Walmart.

She wailed on you. But you did not hit back.

Watch the look on her face. Memorize it for eternity.

When you get the urge to wail on your wife.....look at your selfies.....and smile!

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.
SunCMars is online now  
post #21 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:18 PM
Member
 
Yeswecan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 3,647
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by anoynymous View Post
i am a man of logic and maturity. the concept "husband is always wrong, gets me really angry. I was really close to losing my temper and beating the **** out of my wife. But I controlled my anger, but I am not sure till where I can control it. Everyone has a breaking point, and I don't want to experience it.
Anger management sir. There are programs and self help.

“You're painfully alive in a drugged and dying culture.”
― Richard Yates, Revolutionary Road
Yeswecan is offline  
post #22 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:22 PM
Moderator
 
EleGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: New Mexico
Posts: 33,632
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by TaDor View Post
She wants the excitement of you being in the edge. It's not healthy for you. Like, it's stressing out your heart.

She is being a brat.

Offer a trade... She tones it down... You hit her with a flogger while tied to the bed. She wants a spanking that Will sting for a day or so.
Quote:
Originally Posted by TaDor View Post
She wants the excitement of you being in the edge. It's not healthy for you. Like, it's stressing out your heart.

She is being a brat.

Offer a trade... She tones it down... You hit her with a flogger while tied to the bed. She wants a spanking that Will sting for a day or so.
These two posts are “amazing”. Talk about jumping to conclutions. How about we find out why he gets so angry that he wants to beat his wife before we assume that she is bring a brat and that he should spank her?

I was married to a guy who could have written that OP. Except that he did hit me.

My “acting like a brat” that apparently drove him to do this were things like:

  • I gave my son a small bowl of cottage cheese with fruit. Apparently, according to my ex, cottage cheese is junk food.

  • After working, I came home and cleaned the kitchen up. He came in from work and decided that I should have cleaned the bedroom instead. Neither was particularly dirty. But according to him I always did the wrong thing.

  • I made a sauce to go with a meal. He yelled that sauces were a waste of calories and so he threw his dish with the dinner at me. Other times, if I made a meal without a sauce, he would complain that it was too dry. So again, he threw the dish at me. Clearly I was a acting like a brat, just wanted the drama and wanted it whine he started hitting, shoving, etc.

  • I could go on with examples, but those are enough.

How about we find out what’s going on before we tell a potentially abusive man that his wife is just being a brat, wants the drama and he should spank her?

And him offering some sexual play that included spanking would not have gone over well with me. I find nothing sexy and/or fun about spanking. Especially from a guy with a horrible anger who wants to beat me.


Surviving An Affair -
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.



To Create A Passionate Marriage -
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Last edited by EleGirl; 04-10-2017 at 12:26 PM.
EleGirl is online now  
post #23 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:32 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2016
Posts: 2,884
Re: I might hit my wife

A number of posters seem to be confusing consensual BDSM with abuse.

Quote:
Originally Posted by EleGirl View Post
snip
And him offering some sexual play that included spanking would not have gone over well with me. I find nothing sexy and/or fun about spanking. Especially from a guy with a horrible anger who wants to beat me.

uhtred is offline  
post #24 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:32 PM
Forum Supporter
 
3Xnocharm's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Midwest USA
Posts: 6,207
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by TaDor View Post
She wants the excitement of you being in the edge. It's not healthy for you. Like, it's stressing out your heart.

She is being a brat.

Offer a trade... She tones it down... You hit her with a flogger while tied to the bed. She wants a spanking that Will sting for a day or so.
Wow, seriously?? You/we dont have any idea what is going on here! They may not even be arguing or anything and he has this urge to beat her! This is really dangerous advice in this instance!

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
3Xnocharm is offline  
post #25 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:56 PM
Forum Supporter
 
CynthiaDe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 4,603
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by anoynymous View Post
i am a man of logic and maturity. the concept "husband is always wrong, gets me really angry. I was really close to losing my temper and beating the **** out of my wife. But I controlled my anger, but I am not sure till where I can control it. Everyone has a breaking point, and I don't want to experience it.
This is ridiculous. First of all, you have a distorted self-image. You are not a man of logic or maturity if you are considering striking your wife. That is the mind of an immature man. You are actually thinking of hitting your wife as a option. The first step is to recognize how stupid and immature that is. Hitting your wife is idiotic. It is also childish. Children hit. Adults find adult ways to cope with their problems and to resolve them in a healthy manner.

If you are so upset with your wife that you are entertaining hitting her, it is time for you to figure out what inside you allows you to think of that as an option. It is also time for you to decide what you are going to do about your lack of self-control and your anger at your wife.

In a marriage, spouses are supposed to have each other's backs. If you don't then something is broken in the marriage. Since you are the one here, we can only talk to you. Take the first step and do something to correct this problem. You have the power to control your own life and to influence your wife in a positive manner. Your wife is trying to communicate with you, but you are angry about what she's saying. Is she trying to get through to you or is she out of line? If she's trying to get through to you, face whatever it is and do something about it. If she is mistreating you, then deal with her mistreatment appropriately.



To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
For more on my marriage philosophies check out the marriage section of my website:

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


Standard Evidence Thread:
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
CynthiaDe is online now  
post #26 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 01:23 PM
Member
 
ConanHub's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Abroad. Currently Arizona.
Posts: 7,581
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by EleGirl View Post
These two posts are “amazing”. Talk about jumping to conclutions. How about we find out why he gets so angry that he wants to beat his wife before we assume that she is bring a brat and that he should spank her?

I was married to a guy who could have written that OP. Except that he did hit me.

My “acting like a brat” that apparently drove him to do this were things like:

  • I gave my son a small bowl of cottage cheese with fruit. Apparently, according to my ex, cottage cheese is junk food.

  • After working, I came home and cleaned the kitchen up. He came in from work and decided that I should have cleaned the bedroom instead. Neither was particularly dirty. But according to him I always did the wrong thing.

  • I made a sauce to go with a meal. He yelled that sauces were a waste of calories and so he threw his dish with the dinner at me. Other times, if I made a meal without a sauce, he would complain that it was too dry. So again, he threw the dish at me. Clearly I was a acting like a brat, just wanted the drama and wanted it whine he started hitting, shoving, etc.

  • I could go on with examples, but those are enough.

How about we find out what’s going on before we tell a potentially abusive man that his wife is just being a brat, wants the drama and he should spank her?

And him offering some sexual play that included spanking would not have gone over well with me. I find nothing sexy and/or fun about spanking. Especially from a guy with a horrible anger who wants to beat me.

Did you mean to quote me instead of Tador 2x?

If so, let me know and I will fully explain and support my post. Tador isn't far off base either.
ConanHub is offline  
post #27 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 01:41 PM
Member
 
Bibi1031's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: texas
Posts: 1,807
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by 3Xnocharm View Post
Wow, seriously?? You/we dont have any idea what is going on here! They may not even be arguing or anything and he has this urge to beat her! This is really dangerous advice in this instance!
That's because the OP didn't really say much. I wonder why?

Good things come to those who wait...greater things come to those who get off their a$$ and do anything to make it happen.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Bibi1031 is offline  
post #28 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 02:18 PM
Forum Supporter
 
SunCMars's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: North Coast Nationalist-burg, U.S.A.
Posts: 2,775
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by EleGirl View Post
These two posts are “amazing”. Talk about jumping to conclutions. How about we find out why he gets so angry that he wants to beat his wife before we assume that she is bring a brat and that he should spank her?

I was married to a guy who could have written that OP. Except that he did hit me.

My “acting like a brat” that apparently drove him to do this were things like:

  • I gave my son a small bowl of cottage cheese with fruit. Apparently, according to my ex, cottage cheese is junk food.

  • After working, I came home and cleaned the kitchen up. He came in from work and decided that I should have cleaned the bedroom instead. Neither was particularly dirty. But according to him I always did the wrong thing.
  • I made a sauce to go with a meal. He yelled that sauces were a waste of calories and so he threw his dish with the dinner at me. Other times, if I made a meal without a sauce, he would complain that it was too dry. So again, he threw the dish at me. Clearly I was a acting like a brat, just wanted the drama and wanted it whine he started hitting, shoving, etc.
  • I could go on with examples, but those are enough.

How about we find out what’s going on before we tell a potentially abusive man that his wife is just being a brat, wants the drama and he should spank her?

And him offering some sexual play that included spanking would not have gone over well with me. I find nothing sexy and/or fun about spanking. Especially from a guy with a horrible anger who wants to beat me.

Whew, I am safe......

I only throw SPACED OUT one-liners at you.

You feel them.....but you will never let me know. They hurt GOOD !

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.
SunCMars is online now  
post #29 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 03:48 PM
Member
 
inmyprime's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: London
Posts: 1,294
Re: I might hit my wife

Quote:
Originally Posted by EleGirl View Post
These two posts are “amazing”. Talk about jumping to conclutions. How about we find out why he gets so angry that he wants to beat his wife before we assume that she is bring a brat and that he should spank her?

I was married to a guy who could have written that OP. Except that he did hit me.

My “acting like a brat” that apparently drove him to do this were things like:

  • I gave my son a small bowl of cottage cheese with fruit. Apparently, according to my ex, cottage cheese is junk food.

  • After working, I came home and cleaned the kitchen up. He came in from work and decided that I should have cleaned the bedroom instead. Neither was particularly dirty. But according to him I always did the wrong thing.

  • I made a sauce to go with a meal. He yelled that sauces were a waste of calories and so he threw his dish with the dinner at me. Other times, if I made a meal without a sauce, he would complain that it was too dry. So again, he threw the dish at me. Clearly I was a acting like a brat, just wanted the drama and wanted it whine he started hitting, shoving, etc.

  • I could go on with examples, but those are enough.

How about we find out what’s going on before we tell a potentially abusive man that his wife is just being a brat, wants the drama and he should spank her?

And him offering some sexual play that included spanking would not have gone over well with me. I find nothing sexy and/or fun about spanking. Especially from a guy with a horrible anger who wants to beat me.

Actual domestic abuse is a terrible thing. However we all might be guilty of jumping to conclusions due to the lack of information (and also our perception is often influenced by has happened to us).

There is a big difference between someone venting on a forum about having thoughts about "losing it" with their wife and actually doing it. it also seems to me (and I may be jumping to conclusions again) that it doesn't fit a profile of an actual wife-beater posting on a forum being worried about it. The wife would probably be posting instead, anonymously.

Last edited by inmyprime; 04-10-2017 at 04:52 PM.
inmyprime is offline  
post #30 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 03:59 PM
Registered User
 
Problem's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Posts: 11
Re: I might hit my wife

Sir, you don't love your wife if you are thinking in hitting her just because she annoys you. Why did you even got married with her to begin with? If you can't "deal" with your wife man up and talk to her, trying to fix the situation and yourself (because your way of thinking is way off) or just ask for the Divorce.
Problem is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Wife said she is disappointed with our lives Janetandjohn General Relationship Discussion 74 02-01-2017 06:14 PM
Conflict between wife and mother getting out of hand mattsull13 The Family & Parenting Forums 22 10-24-2016 04:59 AM
Married, both polyamorous, but I still love my ex girlfriend SketchScratcher Considering Divorce or Separation 7 09-04-2016 02:35 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome