Originally Posted by She'sStillGotIt View Post
So you've known this person for 3 whole months, you've met ONCE, she's 6 years OLDER than you, but you're 'in love?'
People don't fall in love in only 3 short months. Having had little experience (other than a couple of teenage romances) at only 19, you're still learning all about life and you haven't even entered adulthood yet.
I support much of what you said here. *NOBODY* should think they are deeply in love until they are over the age of 24. Meeting and dating different people will help teach you what you like and don't like.
But people can and *DO* fall in love quickly all the time. It's a matter of the infatuation phase being recognized and/or being in love after six months of a physical relationship.
I've dated/had sex with many over the years, only a few that made me go "oh yeah". When I met my future wife, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend. We talked, danced and I felt very comfortable with her. I had the strong urge to kiss her and went for it. Made love that night and started dating that week. On our 2nd week, we talked about being infatuated with each other... but it sounded awkward, agreed we can use the word "love" but would be casual. Meanwhile - I was talking about her with my friends and as it turned out - she was doing the same with her's. We were engaged a few weeks from meeting that first night, married a few months later. That was 6 years ago. No other woman before her mattered as much as she did to me. We are sexually compatible, we parent as a team. Of all things considered, we are still a very stable and compatible couple with little arguments.
You sound like a sweet young man, but that's the problem - you're a YOUNG man. Still a teenage boy, really. Right now, your FIRST concern should be college or learning a trade, not putting all your energies into wasting 6 hours a day on Skype with some woman who lives in another country and who you barely know. Because contrary to popular belief, you can't live on love (or infatuation).
From what you've said, being needy and clingy seems to be something you do with no matter who you're with. That's a relationship killer and this online thing already has 2 strikes against it.
Find a nice girl your own age in a radius of 20 miles from your house. This thing is going nowhere.
Agreed. LDR that work is when they didn't start out that way and its a temp thing - like husband is working off shore or deployed. or a young couple in which one has been hired in another city and the other is finishing up college or a project before moving.
But years of not meeting... type thing. nope. It's not realistic.