Re: Distance might kill it, what to do ? :(
I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost 5 years. We got married a year ago. My experience in a long distance relationship is, when one person in the relationship needs space, one of several things, or a combination of said things is going on :
1) The person needing space has met or hopes to meet someone else.
2) The two of you are running out of things to talk about, and one is getting bored with the awkward silences.
3) Said person is growing tired of the lack of physical contact. A huge part of a relationship is just being close to one another. Cuddling, sleeping in the same bed, even just doing normal things together like cooking together, or going for a walk. A woman needs to feel loved and appreciated in her physical life.
4) She really just needs some space to figure things out and think clearly about whether this relationship is right for her.
You're so young. Most people in their 30s and older will tell you that 19 is too young to find love. Who you are at 19 is often nothing like who you will be at 30. Wants, needs and life goals change. I settled down with someone with similar interests when I was 21. By 26, I had nothing in common with this individual. By then, we had 4 kids who suffered greatly because of our split.
Although I would hope that you would delay settling down with someone until you are ready, I also know that at your age, most of us were stubborn and chose to do what we wanted to anyway defying all advice. So, advice-wise.... Give her a couple of weeks of silence. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don't call, text or contact her in any way for two weeks. Do not respond to her either. After the two weeks are up, if you still feel the same way about her, send her flowers or some other gift that you know she'll appreciate. Let her know you are still thinking of her and still care for her. If she doesn't respond, you'll have to move on. In the meantime, reconnect with friends and family, go out and have some fun. Keep yourself busy, even if you don't feel like it. Fake it til you make it. If you do reconnect, you'll have more of a social life and won't come off as clingy. If you don't reconnect, at least you'll have plenty to keep you busy! Also, if the two of you decide to keep working at the relationship, make an effort to be present in her physical life. Send her things like flowers, love letters, or one of your tshirts. Holding things that your loved one has touched helps people feel closer.