Jesus, how many MORE times are you going to lay down on the floor and beg her to wipe her shoes on you?
You're so frighteningly co-dependent it isn't even funny. The woman has done nothing but take advantage of you and suck you dry financially for years. Then when she thought a better opportunity had come along, she thought it was just fine to send one last "FU" your way by packing up while you were away on business and slinking out of the house like the filthy weasel she is. And here YOU are, talking about how wonderful she is and how much you love her and you're running over there asking her to come home to you and writing resumes for her. I'd be willing to bet you're giving her money, too.
Oh - and let's not forget that Mother of the Year
was so intent on doing what SHE wanted, that the selfish POS actually told her kids AFTER she'd moved out that they could either come with her to lover boy's house or find themselves somewhere else
to live. Is that not just a sterling example
of motherhood at it's finest,
I understand that in your co-dependent frame of mind you can't see her for what she is, but I sure can. It ain't rocket science for God's sake. And the saddest part is that you're still begging her to love you and give your marriage another chance. You were even willing to settle for 'some time in the future' if she wasn't open to it right now.
And of course you'll gladly continue to pay for the new car this POS took with her when she left. And of course, you'll continue
paying paying the insurance as well. You'll also continue paying it even when you find out Prince Charming is driving it all over town. The fact that these two losers are a HUGE liability
to you every time they get behind the wheel won't make a difference to you. You'll still
continue paying for the car hoping it pleases her. Hey, here's a question. How are you going to feel if her boyfriend has a tragic accident one night and kills someone in your car because he fell asleep at the wheel or had one too many to drink? Guess who'll get sued in the wrongful death lawsuit? That's right, you
and that ingrate wife of yours. And if the family is awarded 1.6 million dollars in damages, guess whose wages will be garnished for the rest of your life after your insurance has paid their limit? That would be YOU. Guess who'll lose everything he's ever worked for? Again, that would be YOU because Miss Thang has nothing TO lose since she's too damned lazy to work. Think about what it would be like to be in debt forever and never be able to own another thing - all because of your wife's boyfriend.
Think about THAT
when you're paying for that car.
I realize that I cannot be anyone's second choice...
Actually, you don't
realize that, or you wouldn't be so eager to blame YOURSELF for her
**** choices and her continued utter disrespect
of you. And you sure wouldn't be begging her to come back to you after she slunk out of the house behind your back rather than showing you a SHRED of respect and being honest with you. Not blaming her for her low rent actions is not 'growth' - it's co-dependency
at it's finest.
She wants to be friends and thinks that she did the best thing for both of us.
LOL. Of course she does. Opportunist that she is, she knows she can continue to use you as an ATM because apparently, Prince Charming isn't rolling in the cash. And sadly, you'll be only too happy
to give it to her.
Please educate yourself on co-dependency and get some help for it.