Post Marriage Depression?
Hi I have been tearing my hair out for a few months now over my new marriage. I got married in September last year and I am have been feeling depressed and empty since then. I have no interest in sex with my wife and I generally feel like a carer.
To give you some background, I have been with my now wife for over 5 years now and married for just over 6 months. I am a sociable outgoing person and my wife was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis a couple of years ago. SInce then I feel like I am the only person that does anything around the house, I do the cooking, washing, cleaning up and she sits on the sofa doins sod all. I feel I may be beginning to resent her and feel trapped and unhappy because I don't want to just be a care giver.
I have a full on job, and have to come home, cook and clean and eventually get to sit down late in the evening. I have suffered from back issues in the past which resulted in major surgery and also suffer from depression and anxiety. I just don't feel happy and have zero interest in sex with my wife. She is starting to get worried as we don't do it very often at all but I just don't feel an attraction to her anymore.
Is there something that I can do? I have thought about counselling but I worry that they will just tell me I should split up with her and don't want to upset her, her family and my family and I feel like a total failure at the moment.
I love my wife but I am beginning to wonder if it is more as a friend/companion rather than a wife and lover