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post #1 of 3 (permalink) Old 04-12-2017, 07:43 PM Thread Starter
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My wife and I are the 16 and pregnant couple who stayed together, I'm 26 now and trying to hold on to the line of my marriage. I'm a truck driver out for a week or so then home for a day or 2 then back out. I chose this job because it pays and I seem to be good at it. My wife and daughter hate it and tell Me consistently. I got my cdl at 22 after dropping out at 16 and not finishing school I bounced around from cook to butcher never working less than 35 a week and never being unemployed for more than 6 days. I need you to understand I gave all the b.s. teenage stuff up when I found out she was pregnant.We got married as I got my 1st gig driving she wanted to go to community college and do nails. I did some investigation and found we could not swing it on my small entry level position. She went to a family member back were she is from and tells me said member will pay for it....they paid half. Ok so thanks to this I lose her entering the workforce for a year.
When she graduated I am nudging toward an established buisness, she gets into a rental situations were I'm paying for her to work but not to worry after buying 3k worth of product for her to start the owner breaks her back and eventually has to sell...so 2 years fly by of me working til my eyes are falling shut( I actually worked nights for awhile and would routinely have to pull in at a gas station to avoid falling asleep during my 30minute commute).
During this time she is depressed and I am forced to play mom when I should be sleeping. When offered this out and back I take it at once the pay is great and there is room to grow. After three years of this she has only worked part time at a Starbucks for 6 months. Anyway she begs me to quit my job and I refuse. Then a month ago she calls me and tells me was talking to an ex from 9th grade on fb of course things got heavy but that's all I know she has apologized but the evidence is gone....

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Re: Will things ever get better?

Just thinking about what you've written.
What you describe is a lazy, irresponsible, disloyal, unambitious person which you are married to.

She refuses to work.
She is not satisfied with your work.

Granted, being gone 5 days a week would strain any marriage, but you have done your best to provide for your family and I admire you for that.

I know what you probably should do, but I am only hearing one side and will keep my opinion to myself.

Question: do you think your wife ever really intends to work and help support your family?
At do you think she's doing on her phone when you're gone?

Are you stupid enough that get her pregnant again?

What do you want out of life?

What are her good qualities?
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Re: Will things ever get better?

Originally Posted by Evinrude58 View Post
Are you stupid enough that get her pregnant again?
Please say the answer to this is 'no.' Be SMART. It's literally the LAST thing you need right now. Wear 2 condoms each time, in case one breaks.

It sounds like your wife refuses to grow up and instead, looks at you like you're her daddy. She wants you to fix everything that's wrong, support her, take over the household when you're home, and entertain her because she's 'lonely.' It's like having another child to care for. She clearly got pregnant too young and married too young and it shows - loud and clear. I think she told you about her contact with some friend on FB to get you jealous and maybe cause you to stick around the house more. She's JUST so childish.

I think you should seriously consider your options. You two married too young (obviously) and she wasn't ready and still ISN'T.
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