Does divorce mean failure 😢 or weakness?
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As is the answer to most any question - it depends. It depends on the circumstances. Did you choose or was it chosen for you? Depending on the circumstances it could be seen as failure (if you chose it for reasons that don't make sense), success (if you finally overcame some deep seated fear), weakness (if you just gave in to temptation) or strength (if you fought to get thru a bad marriage) It could also be sees as a sign of stupidity if you walked away from a good thing for no reason or intelligence if you recognized some issues impossible to solve. Ultimately, though however divorce may be looked at is still your choice.
When my wife left our 24 year long marriage, I felt like a failure (and still do at times). I felt as though everything I had ever wanted was taken from me. I didn't want the divorce. I fought to save the marriage. Looking back, I realize I had been fighting to save the marriage for years before it ended. In the end, without success. But I also realize I was not happy. She was not the woman I had married. She had changed. But so had I. I was not the man she married. In some ways better, in some ways worse.
Now almost three years later, I try to look at my marriage as a success. We lasted over two decades. We raised two healthy, happy, independent self-sufficient adults. It did not end as I wanted or desired and that still makes me sad. There are times I think of my ex and can only see her weakness and stupidity (from my perspective) but when I try to be empathetic I can almost admire her bravery and strength for ending something I was not willing to end.
In some ways it is like having to put a pet down. You know they are sick and hurting but you love them and still want them around. Some will think you are cruel and heartless for having them put down. Others will admire your bravery and courage for doing the right thing. So once again it depends.
As long as you are OK with it and can live with your decision, that is all that matters. You may come to regret that decision, but again you may not. If you do, as with all of your past, all you can do is learn from it and grow.