Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: My Wife is Bisexual and has never had that experience.
This is in my wheelhouse. I am married to a bisexual women for 44 years and my two previous relationships, one an ex fiancee was with to bi girls. I only know bi girls as lovers. I did not know any of them were bi until we started the relationship.
My wife tried to repress her bisexuality. She did not want to cheat. We did a wife swap but she hated sex with the other guy. He was too rough and did not make love like we do. Then she started asking her visiting friends to join us in bed. They all thought I was hot since high school, so they joined us for a threesome. They were just bi curious so it was a one time thing. What my wife did next was brilliant.
Her best friend since childhood who is the sister of my childhood friend, was visiting us after a nasty divorce. She was complaining that she had not had sex in 8 months and the single guys she met were all single for a reason. Out of the blue my wifes asks her friend if she would like me to have sex with her. Her friend asked her if she was kidding, but my wife was not. We had a crush on each other since we were 13 and so we went upstairs to the bedroom. She extremely lubricated when we got into bed and when she had her orgasm she screamed out loud.
My wife then entered the bedroom and asked who died. We started talking and I figured the polite thing to do was invite her to join us. She did and they focused on me until I told them that they have been such good friends that they should show each other sexually their love of one another. They did and we found out that her girlfriend had been with women throughout college and my wife had been fantasizing about sex with women for a few months. We all enjoyed the threesome so much that we kept it going until we asked our girlfriend to move in with us. She lived with us full time for about 7 years. It was great. The girls only had sex if I took part. My wife said that if I was not there, it felt like cheating.
Our girlfriend got married for financial security since she had no spousal rights in our poly triad. She actually found a guy online who was OK with her continuing her relationship with us. They married and her lover, my wife, was her maid of honor. After that she still maintained her own room in our home while splitting her time between us and her husband. That lasted 30 years.
We made it work. My wife made sure that her sex with women was only in a threesome with me. Being bi is not black and white. My wife only wants women for sex, not romance, dating or marriage. She had sex with women a few thousand times over our 44 year marriage but never went on a date or had a romance with a woman. In fact, at home she would not even hug or kiss our girlfriend on the cheek outside of the bedroom. Her girlfriend was my lover and my wife's friend with benefits. There was love but not the romantic kind between them as there was between our girlfriend and me. Her is a good definition of bisexuality and you can see how complex it is and how it can vary over time:
DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” by Robyn Ochs.
Your wife is not going to be able to fight her urge for sex with a woman for long. Do what we did; have a threesome so no cheating involved, it is hot to watch two girls together and also hot to have them sexually please you. It is a win-win-win situation. Our sexlife was great. Our personal life is great and we never even had an argument with our girlfriend. She knew her place in our poly triad and respected my marriage as the primary relationship.
A threesome is the perfect way to let your wife explore that side of her in safe way without undue risk to your marriage. Good luck and read my signature block below. We lived by what it says and had a great marriage and life as a result.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.