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My Wife is Bisexual and has never had that experience.

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Admins, feel free to move this thread to wherever it belongs. So try not to poke fun. My wife and i have been together for 5 years now. We got married at 16 after i got her pregnant, but we are very much in love and have been for a long time. Well about 2 years ago she expressed to me that she was bisexual. Well she also told me that she have never done anything besides kiss a girl, but always wanted to have a lesbian experience. Well i found out she had looked at porn and master bated a few times. Well come two years later we have continued to talk, and we don't want to cause any issues in our marriage, but i feel like i stopped her from truly discovering her sexuality. We both got married so young, and she is the only woman i have ever been with. She has been with a couple guys, but i haven't had to worry about her cheating on me in the past. We are very open about and talk about sex easily. We talk about things we like and dislike. My wife has admitted she feels kinda bad since she has never had that experience,but refuses to do anything about it since we are married. Well we talked and we are going to explore the possibility of letting her have ONE experience. My question is. Am i wrong for possibly letting her have this? I don't want her to resent me later in our marriage, but i don't know how comfortable i am with the idea. At this point its just an idea. Nothing is set in stone, and she has agreed to be completely open with me, and if i say no more, its stops. Am i horrible for doing this? Do you think it could cause issues in our marriage? Im just worried that she may late try to have an experience without me knowing if i don't let her have this. Just don't know how i feel exactly, but she knows this and has agreed i have full reigns on this.
 
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This is his wife.. Just to clear things up, i never asked to do this. He is just worried I might go out and do it for the experience over time. Im not going to. I don't want to. Yes, I am bisexual, I wish i could have had atleast one experience in my past, but i didn't and I am okay with that. I am married to the love my life and all of my sexual needs are met. Im happy. Just wanted to let you guys know this was all his idea. I love my husband and I had no thought of even doing this.
 
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This is in my wheelhouse. I am married to a bisexual women for 44 years and my two previous relationships, one an ex fiancee was with to bi girls. I only know bi girls as lovers. I did not know any of them were bi until we started the relationship.

My wife tried to repress her bisexuality. She did not want to cheat. We did a wife swap but she hated sex with the other guy. He was too rough and did not make love like we do. Then she started asking her visiting friends to join us in bed. They all thought I was hot since high school, so they joined us for a threesome. They were just bi curious so it was a one time thing. What my wife did next was brilliant.

Her best friend since childhood who is the sister of my childhood friend, was visiting us after a nasty divorce. She was complaining that she had not had sex in 8 months and the single guys she met were all single for a reason. Out of the blue my wifes asks her friend if she would like me to have sex with her. Her friend asked her if she was kidding, but my wife was not. We had a crush on each other since we were 13 and so we went upstairs to the bedroom. She extremely lubricated when we got into bed and when she had her orgasm she screamed out loud.

My wife then entered the bedroom and asked who died. We started talking and I figured the polite thing to do was invite her to join us. She did and they focused on me until I told them that they have been such good friends that they should show each other sexually their love of one another. They did and we found out that her girlfriend had been with women throughout college and my wife had been fantasizing about sex with women for a few months. We all enjoyed the threesome so much that we kept it going until we asked our girlfriend to move in with us. She lived with us full time for about 7 years. It was great. The girls only had sex if I took part. My wife said that if I was not there, it felt like cheating.

Our girlfriend got married for financial security since she had no spousal rights in our poly triad. She actually found a guy online who was OK with her continuing her relationship with us. They married and her lover, my wife, was her maid of honor. After that she still maintained her own room in our home while splitting her time between us and her husband. That lasted 30 years.

We made it work. My wife made sure that her sex with women was only in a threesome with me. Being bi is not black and white. My wife only wants women for sex, not romance, dating or marriage. She had sex with women a few thousand times over our 44 year marriage but never went on a date or had a romance with a woman. In fact, at home she would not even hug or kiss our girlfriend on the cheek outside of the bedroom. Her girlfriend was my lover and my wife's friend with benefits. There was love but not the romantic kind between them as there was between our girlfriend and me. Her is a good definition of bisexuality and you can see how complex it is and how it can vary over time:

DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” by Robyn Ochs.

Your wife is not going to be able to fight her urge for sex with a woman for long. Do what we did; have a threesome so no cheating involved, it is hot to watch two girls together and also hot to have them sexually please you. It is a win-win-win situation. Our sexlife was great. Our personal life is great and we never even had an argument with our girlfriend. She knew her place in our poly triad and respected my marriage as the primary relationship.

A threesome is the perfect way to let your wife explore that side of her in safe way without undue risk to your marriage. Good luck and read my signature block below. We lived by what it says and had a great marriage and life as a result.
 
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