Re: She is drifting away, how can I save it?
I wish I had time to translate what she said in a way you could understand it. But the gust of it is this: She doesn't love you and has been hoping you'd break things off so she didn't have to be the bad guy.
You are very foolish if you don't KNOW that you can do better than this person. She has all kinds of problems.
I will say this in my most confident tone: The pain you feel now is horrible, but it's a freaking drop in the bucket compared to how you would have felt had you married her, had kids with her, built a life with her---- and she cheated on you and left you. I truly believe this is how your life would have turned out had you married her.
She is no longer your concern. Please don't help her any more in life. She will be back for help in some way. Tell her no. Just no. Nothing else. Move on. Date other women. It will help you get your mind off her.
I'm so sorry you're hurting.
You truly did dodge a bullet. And I believe that bullet was a 50 caliber hollow point.
Now find yourself one that values YOU. Don't ever worry about her or incest thoughts in what she is doing. Use some thought stopping techniques.