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post #31 of 59 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 07:26 AM
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If they're openly affectionate in public and around family, you're being played for one, giant chump.
And when alone...?


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My brother would be punched in the face............not like we haven't punched eachother before.

And my wife would be out the door!

Your brothers marriage is most likley in the crapper........and so is yours you just don't realise it yet.
Actually, this is a good point OP. Have you ever punched or hit your brother before ? For what reason ? Is he a general scumb@g ?

And who do you think initiated or mainly drove this relationship at the beginning (not now) ? Your wife or your brother (pick one as the main driver at the start)?

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Growing up did your brother intimidate you? Was he a bully? Or was he someone you looked up to? Was he popular and you weren't?

Did you defer to him ?

I ask because you said you ' stupidly played it off cool ' Were you trying to be cool like in high school? Trying to fit in?

You should think about that. You essentially, at that point, gave him your permission to continue.

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

Insist that it stop now, or your brother will be banging her before long. This wouldn't be the first time we heard this story here.


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jjrr

After reading your post, a few things bother me that are obviously bothering you as well. I guess the obvious of time spent, cuddling and hugging is dangerous at best. The next problem is the emotional connection your wife has with your brother, but this still isn't the worst of your problems. The fact your brother came to you means he knows their relationship is wrong. The problem I see, is that you gave your brother the green light to continue inappropriate behavior even though your brother knows it is wrong. He will even tell your wife this and then your wife will see this as disrespect by you. I would say that you need to tell your wife that she have boundaries after two weeks of surveillance. But after the surveillance you'll be back here saying it's more then just cuddling.

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Wouldn't be the first time a wife cheated on her husband with his brother. Sounds sexual already.

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I'm thinking Genesis 38:8

No kids?

Perhaps: "Then Judah said to Onan, "Sleep with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother."
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My brother would be punched in the face............not like we haven't punched eachother before.

And my wife would be out the door!

Your brothers marriage is most likley in the crapper........and so is yours you just don't realise it yet.
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Brothers nose would be flattened.

From what? A sucker punch. You are the sucker here. Oh, and he will not press charges. At most you will have to pay for his medical bill.

Doing it in front of you?

This is a poop test. Your wife wants:

You out of her life..

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You to grow a set.

Nah, she does not want you.... with or without a set of balls. She has washed her hands and her oyster of you!
She literally hates you, despises you for your weakness. There is no other explanation...other than she is [one sick witch].

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

There is no way that any of that behaviour is acceptable! You need to step up and tell her exactly how you feel and what you have observed, and that if the marriage is to continue she needs to back away from your brother.

Obviously some contact is necessary but NOT to the point where he is basically a second husband.

Moving to another town sounds like the easy solution, but at the end of the day if she does have a "thing" for him then she'll keep seeing him even if she has to drive miles. In fact, it could make them even closer.

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

Do things like this really happen?

Do men like you exist?

You have already lost.

I guess you could enjoy raising your brother's offspring with your wife??

What option does a man like you have???

You come off as a very weak wimp.

How did you possibly beat out other competitors to get her to date you in the first place?

I'm really flabbergasted you got her to marry you.

Do you have some mental/emotional instability concerning your brother?

My wife would not have started hanging out with my brother alone all the time, going on dates!??!!!! Seriously!!!!!!?????

You let her date your brother????

Cuddle time?

Sits next to him while you play with yourself and watch?

Hot tub fun while you watch???

Get real.

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

jjrr.

Is this a hit and run? Bump our sensibilities and then sit back and cackle?

Please respond.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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Get real.

At the risk of banning, it should read is this real.
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Do things like this really happen?

Do men like you exist?

You have already lost.

I guess you could enjoy raising your brother's offspring with your wife??

What option does a man like you have???

You come off as a very weak wimp.

How did you possibly beat out other competitors to get her to date you in the first place?

I'm really flabbergasted you got her to marry you.

Do you have some mental/emotional instability concerning your brother?

My wife would not have started hanging out with my brother alone all the time, going on dates!??!!!! Seriously!!!!!!?????

You let her date your brother????

Cuddle time?

Sits next to him while you play with yourself and watch?

Hot tub fun while you watch???

Get real.
I gotta agree I'm afraid...

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At the risk of banning, it should read is this real.
I actually was not questioning the veracity of his post.

I was telling him to get real in his strange excuse for a life.

Unless he is a cuckold, and it sounds like he doesn't want to be, then he better grow a pair fast.
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Re: Wife too close to my brother

I think if I suddenly woke up in his shoes, I'd explode and probably do crazy things, beatdown(s) etc.

But then again, it wouldn't get that far. How the **** does it get to that point before it almost becomes an issue, because let's face it, cuddling, hugging, holding hands, getting cozy in the hot tub......these are all WAY beyond too close. HOW!?!?

The kicker for me is saying it doesn't bother him when his brother asked.
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