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post #46 of 59 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 01:40 PM
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I actually was not questioning the veracity of his post.

I was telling him to get real in his strange excuse for a life.

Unless he is a cuckold, and it sounds like he doesn't want to be, then he better grow a pair fast.
Oh, I meant me getting the ban hammer for suggesting the validity of the thread.

I agree with everything you mentioned.

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post #47 of 59 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 04:33 PM
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That's a very strange relationship between them

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No, not if they are dating or in love.

Wrong when they are both in relathionships and he is the OPs brother, "strange" not at all.
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No, not if they are dating or in love.

Wrong when they are both in relathionships and he is the OPs brother, "strange" not at all.
You got me there

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If you are posting your concerns on an anonymous advice seeking site online, you're gut is already telling you something is wrong. Listen to your gut, if anything your wife is taking time away from you by sharing her time, feelings and hopes with your brother not you. Your brother already knows that this is inappropriate as he had to ask you if it was awkward that your wife cuddles up to him in the hot tub or your sister in law is checked out of her marriage that she doesn't care for your brother anymore. Listen to me as my husband cheated with my sister in law and I never thought that as a possibility so in hindsight I now know her wanting to spend time with me as a friend was her means of getting close to him. I was naive in my thinking that things like that doesn't happen in families. Boy, was I wrong. You need to talk to both of them but first to your brother.

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So my wife and I have been married for 5years now and we have in almost all respects a perfect marriage. A few months ago we moved in a few houses down to my brother (Married) and since then she has been growing extremely close to him. I usually don't get home until a couple of hours after my wife but my brother is so she normally goes over to his place now. They are now pretty much more than friends. They laugh, talk about everything. I get it they both have high powered jobs and similar pressures and interests but now they go out to movies together, have dinner and even when the whole family is together she is quite touchy. I know for sure there is no sexual activity but they do cuddle, hug and hold hands while alone together. They make no secret of how close they are at all. We had a party at my place where and when we all got into the hot tub, my wife got up close to him. My sister in law doesn't seem to care and has made no mention of anything to me. They are also both very happily married but she is away a lot. After the hot tub, my brother asked me if was uncomfortable and if he should stop being friends with my wife. I stupidly played it off cool but it does bother me, a lot. To mitigate this, I asked my wife if we could move to another town in the sense of new town new adventure, I also brought up the possibility of kids but this set her off saying I only care about myself and don't listen to her feelings.
I am feeling more and more pushed aside even though she hasn't changed towards me. I just don't know if I am being overzealous or should I be worried and should I bring it up if yes with which of them.
If you're a real person and not here trying to elicit WTF responses then you really need to find a marriage counselor and tell her/him what you told us in this opening comment. It's bizarre for a brother to act like this toward your wife and it's bizarre for her to act like this toward him and it's bizarre for you to need to ask if it's messed up or not.

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Well, assuming that this is real...

Ha, as if.

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This happened to a friend of mine. Her husband and her SIL (husband's brother's wife) had an affair, divorced and married each other. It was devastating for her and the kids.
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And when alone...?
I think that you can bet your sweet a$$ that they're probably doing just a tad more than French kissing!


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Oh for the love of ......


I'm not even going to waste my time.
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Is this what's called brotherly love?
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This happened to a friend of mine. Her husband and her SIL (husband's brother's wife) had an affair, divorced and married each other. It was devastating for her and the kids.
Family get togethers must be, um........interesting.
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Family get togethers must be, um........interesting.
I think I know what you're thinking...

No response from the OP, so we can assume he is either too ashamed to reply or was never being genuine to begin with.

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