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Wife too close to my brother

So my wife and I have been married for 5years now and we have in almost all respects a perfect marriage. A few months ago we moved in a few houses down to my brother (Married) and since then she has been growing extremely close to him. I usually don't get home until a couple of hours after my wife but my brother is so she normally goes over to his place now. They are now pretty much more than friends. They laugh, talk about everything. I get it they both have high powered jobs and similar pressures and interests but now they go out to movies together, have dinner and even when the whole family is together she is quite touchy. I know for sure there is no sexual activity but they do cuddle, hug and hold hands while alone together. They make no secret of how close they are at all. We had a party at my place where and when we all got into the hot tub, my wife got up close to him. My sister in law doesn't seem to care and has made no mention of anything to me. They are also both very happily married but she is away a lot. After the hot tub, my brother asked me if was uncomfortable and if he should stop being friends with my wife. I stupidly played it off cool but it does bother me, a lot. To mitigate this, I asked my wife if we could move to another town in the sense of new town new adventure, I also brought up the possibility of kids but this set her off saying I only care about myself and don't listen to her feelings.
I am feeling more and more pushed aside even though she hasn't changed towards me. I just don't know if I am being overzealous or should I be worried and should I bring it up if yes with which of them.

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You have quite a bit to worried about, that doesn't seem okay at all.

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Um say something.
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Tell them BOTH to cut out the bull****.

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

Stay confident in your own self worth.

Cuddle and hold hands while alone together?

Why would you be willing to share your spouse like that?

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Re: Wife too close to my brother

Good!

I am the number one cannon blaster.

WTF! Change your tune............NOW!

Go over to your brothers and DEMAND that he no longer have ANY contact with your wife.

Your brother asked you if it was OK to be this close to your wife.

He KNOWS DAMN WELL that it is not. He is feeling a tinge of guilt....that is why he asked for your blessing.

He is also feeling a tinge of passionate shivers up and down his groin when he hugs your wife.



My take?

They have had sex....and HIS wife has joined in. A FMF threesome.

UH, HUH..

You lost the race because you are asleep at the wheel.

Good luck trying to win any race with this co-driver wife of yours.

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Double post.

The guy is so nervous he double posted his misery.

OR........

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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So my wife and I have been married for 5years now and we have in almost all respects a perfect marriage. A few months ago we moved in a few houses down to my brother (Married) and since then she has been growing extremely close to him. I usually don't get home until a couple of hours after my wife but my brother is so she normally goes over to his place now. They are now pretty much more than friends. They laugh, talk about everything. I get it they both have high powered jobs and similar pressures and interests but now they go out to movies together, have dinner and even when the whole family is together she is quite touchy. I know for sure there is no sexual activity but they do cuddle, hug and hold hands while alone together. They make no secret of how close they are at all. We had a party at my place where and when we all got into the hot tub, my wife got up close to him. My sister in law doesn't seem to care and has made no mention of anything to me. They are also both very happily married but she is away a lot. After the hot tub, my brother asked me if was uncomfortable and if he should stop being friends with my wife. I stupidly played it off cool but it does bother me, a lot. To mitigate this, I asked my wife if we could move to another town in the sense of new town new adventure, I also brought up the possibility of kids but this set her off saying I only care about myself and don't listen to her feelings.
I am feeling more and more pushed aside even though she hasn't changed towards me. I just don't know if I am being over jealous or should I be worried and should I bring it up if yes with which of them.
Both of these were weak.

Should have been upfront with your brother. And your wife. A tad passive aggressive.

If it bothers you, and it should, say something. They are much too close. It will get ( more ) out of hand .

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Time for "Come to Jesus Meeting" with brother!

If that doesn't do any good, then you need to have a protracted meeting about this same subject matter with his old lady!

As is, you'd absolutely have a hell of a time convincing me that you brothers aren't already in the process of sharing!

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So my wife and I have been married for 5years now and we have in almost all respects a perfect marriage. A few months ago we moved in a few houses down to my brother (Married) and since then she has been growing extremely close to him. I usually don't get home until a couple of hours after my wife but my brother is so she normally goes over to his place now. They are now pretty much more than friends. They laugh, talk about everything. I get it they both have high powered jobs and similar pressures and interests but now they go out to movies together, have dinner and even when the whole family is together she is quite touchy. I know for sure there is no sexual activity but they do cuddle, hug and hold hands while alone together. They make no secret of how close they are at all. We had a party at my place where and when we all got into the hot tub, my wife got up close to him. My sister in law doesn't seem to care and has made no mention of anything to me. They are also both very happily married but she is away a lot. After the hot tub, my brother asked me if was uncomfortable and if he should stop being friends with my wife. I stupidly played it off cool but it does bother me, a lot. To mitigate this, I asked my wife if we could move to another town in the sense of new town new adventure, I also brought up the possibility of kids but this set her off saying I only care about myself and don't listen to her feelings.
I am feeling more and more pushed aside even though she hasn't changed towards me. I just don't know if I am being over jealous or should I be worried and should I bring it up if yes with which of them.
A second take:

They go on dates. Spend time alone. And , while alone, get physical.

And you say " we have in almost all respects a perfect marriage. " Maybe for her.


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@MattMatt ~ please merge these two same threads into one! Thanks!

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I'm shocked at the ignorance on both sides of this...I'm sorry but cuddling and holding hands when alone??? Wtaf???

I wouldn't be trusting either of them ever again.

Are there no limits to what some people do?? Carrying on like this with your brothers wife/husbands brother????
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Time for "Come to Jesus Meeting" with brother!

If that doesn't do any good, then you need to have a protracted meeting about this same subject matter with his old lady!

As is, you'd absolutely have a hell of a time convincing me that you brothers aren't already in the process of sharing!

One knowing ~ the other unknowing!
Arb, I think both know.

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So if your wife came over to my house every day and cuddled, I took her on dates, and she was all over me in the hot tub........
That would be ok with you?

Why do you say that you're positive they aren't having sex? Because if your story is legit, they are.
What, you have video cameras in every room of his house, or she wears a chastity belt? Why are you so sure?

What's off limits to any other man should be off limits to your bro.
Nobody could be this weak.
I think......???
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