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post #16 of 23 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 07:42 PM
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Hey guys new to forum but im kinda lost im 25 years old and my fiancé have been together for 3 years we get married here in 5 months I thought I've always had a good relationship with her parents. They always offer to help us and always say they have out ourbest interest in mind. I thought me and her father were in a good relationship he cried when I asked him for his daughters hand in marriage. Tonight we go out for dinner and everything is going good my fiancé leaves to go to the bathro and all of a sudden he snaps out of no where telling me basically im a loser and that he is getting a prenup ( he is very wealthy) together and im going to sign it whether I like it or not and that I won't say anything to my fiancé! He was just going off on me etc. my fiancé walked up in the middle of his rant before I could get a word off and she heard the jist of it.
I had to go to the bathroom and we were done with dinner I got up and walked to the bathroom I came outside and they were arguing we went our seperate ways.
Im super pissed because I thought we had a "relationship" and all this happened I don't even know what to do but im so upset about this I honestly don't even think it's his business if we get a prenup or not. Has this happened to anyone or is it just me and what do I do?
It certainly wasn't "all of a sudden". It sounds like your fiancé has to pick her side and I'm about 99% positive the side of a prenup would send me packing. But you'll have to decide that one if it comes to it.


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post #17 of 23 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 08:28 PM
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A prenup with him? Crazy and meaningless. If you get married to her and she inherits or is gifted lots of money (or a house, car, diamond jewelry, etc), it is not yours if she keeps it in her name. No prenup needed. Anyone would be smart to keep an inheritance separate from joint property. If you go all stupid and cheat on her with a house full of hookers, you wouldn't get any of her inherited property when she decided to divorce you.

On the other hand, as things go well in the marriage, there is no reason she couldn't use some of that money to pay bills or buy you gifts (e.g. a car).

It is common practice to keep inherited or gifted wealth separate from joint property. No big deal, and I would not be insulted if I were engaged to a wealthy woman if she let me know this is how things were going to be.

Her father can easily set up a trust (and he should, and probably already has) which stipulates how his estate is managed and disbursed after his death.

The bigger question now is whether you want to get involved in this family, and what new things do you learn about your fiance in the next little while as a result of her father's actions.
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Re: My father in law flipped

@Zija Reno

You might want to reply to people on your thread. People are asking you for some clarifications. It would really help to get them
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Curious to read the OP reply
Unfortunately, a lot of people post once and then don't come back. And the a lot of people waste their time responding to the OP, wasting their time.
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Re: My father in law flipped

Maybe he was put off by the replies? It's difficult to come back and write "yes, I am actually a loser". Or defend himself to prove the contrary.


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Maybe he was put off by the replies? It's difficult to come back and write "yes, I am actually a loser". Or defend himself to prove the contrary.
Na, never happened, TAM members never so hard on a poster that it would drive them away. /sarcasm

Actually, there is a high probability that in this case, this is what happened. Which is why I wish some people would put their 2x4's away and quite chasing posters off TAM.
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Re: My father in law flipped

Is his name Mr Pewterschmidt?
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